Well my ex has told me that he's in love with me and that no matter who he dates, he always wishes he was with me. It has gone on throughout my entire relationship with my bf now. We've broken up twice due to what my ex has said. But then i often get confused. When we hang out or talk, he almost always says, i think you should come over so we can f***. Im not sure if its just him being flirty or if thats all he wants. He's hurt me in the past. I dont know if i should stay with the one im confortable with, or try things again with my ex.
2007-07-17 07:29:25 · 15 answers · asked by x0blonde0x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys, i think im going to cut him off.
2007-07-17 07:54:35 · update #1
Dont give him another chance.. if they screw u up once.. they'll do it again....and it seems hes done it a couple times.. HES NOT GOING TO CHANGE.. sryy hun.. thats happened to me recently.. if he wanted you as bad as he does... he would try everything in the bookk.. but also some guys just respect you.. and try to earn your friendship back... some guys are *****.. you could be his re-bound.. i hope i dont sound like a ***** too you.. but just dont let him hurt you again.. what you have now is good.. and you shouldnt give that up.. and your Ex all he wants is ***.. from what you said.. if he says lets ****.. he obviously doesnt like you.. hes trying to use you like before.. dont let himm.. kick him to curbe.. a guy who cares also doesnt pressure you .. this is hard to explain.. ive probably confused you.. but thats what i think.. i wouldnt take him back.. i really hope i helped :) and dont take what i said negativly im just trying to hellpp K?
Remember dont leave the person you love for the person you like because that same person will leave you for the one they love..
2007-07-17 07:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dcsweetz.xo 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't go back with your ex if thats all he wants. He still wants you physically but not really anything more. I totally relate to this because I have and still am going through the same thing. I have even gone so far as to try to win her back. But what you have to realize is that it will only end in you getting hurt. It's ok to hold on to the good times that you had, but there is a reason you are not together. And by going back to him you are ruining your chances to meet a good quality guy that will be 1000 times better then your ex ever will be. Take care of yourself first, because your ex does not seem to care about your feelings, or he wouldn't be using you. Hope this helps.
-Ty
2007-07-17 14:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tyler C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back together with your ex, in fact dump your current boyfriend as well. Seriously. People often romanticize their exes and are quick to forget the reasons they broke up in the first place. It sounds like you both and an intense relationship with each other, but ultimately things come to an end and you both need to, in no uncertain terms, move on and not contact each other.
As for your current boyfriend, you are obviously not totally satisfied with him (if you're contemplating your ex) so I suggest you break up with him and look for someone new (or spend some quality single time with yourself and move on when you're ready.) People have difficulty letting go of relationships that are past their prime or no longer what they were. Don't fall into that trap. If you are questioning whether you want to stay with something "comfortable" then you are no longer excited. It's important to work through problems, but it's also important to be honest with your feelings.
Good luck!
2007-07-17 14:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by theharpomarxist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell are you continung to talk to the ex when you have a boyfriend and the ex conversations caused you to break up with the boyfriend twice? I think you want to be with the ex but dont want to lose the present boyfriend. You can not have it both ways and you should either cut ALL ties with the ex so you could really move on or let the boyfriend go so he can find a woman that can and will REALLY be there for him. How the hell can you expect to get over the ex when you continuing conversations with him. Geesh!
2007-07-17 14:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm. . . . you are comfortable with your current bf but don't know if you should go back to your ex because he wants to f*ck you? I'd say you leave your bf because he deserves much better than you for even considering this. Why is he your ex, because there were obviously some serious issues with your relationship. Don't just remember the good times you had with him, remember all of the bad things that led to your break-up. Seriously, your current bf deserves to be treated better than this. Either commit to leaving your ex out of your life, or let your current bf go so you don't hurt him more in the future as you contemplate getting back with your ex.
By the way, when a guy calls and says "come over so we can f*ck," it usually means "come over so we can f*ck." If he means it, that's pretty shallow, and I don't know why you want to get back together with him if that's all he cares about. If he's just "flirting," he either needs to learn some better lines, or you need to not fall for something so effortless.
2007-07-17 14:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by pa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that if your ex expresses himself that way using that exact phrase he's not good for you especially if he's already hurt you in the past but it also sounds like you don't love your current boyfriend and you've entered this "comfort" zone which is often confused for being in love. I went through that. You simply get used to the person - NOT GOOD. I say you need to really define your feelings for your current boyfriend and make sure it's not just that you're used to him and if that's the case you need to leave that relationship now before you hurt him more. It isn't fair to him or you. And as far as the ex is concerned, you need to get rid of him too. I don't think he really loves you if he talks to you that way and maybe he's just looking to get lucky with you if you know what I mean.
2007-07-17 14:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off.....how can he love someone that he only wants to f***? Secondly, there are reasons they call them "EX"!! EX means "no longer". You said he's hurt you before what in God's name makes you think he won't do it again? If the current BF hasn't done anything wrong.....do you really want to make him pay for it becaus your ex is horny and wants something on the side?? Stay with the current BF and kick the EX to the curb....he's not doing you ANY good at moving on and growing up!!
2007-07-17 14:35:29 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and get the ex completely out of your life. You have nothing to lose with him and everything to lose with your current beau that makes you feel comfortable. Your ex just wants to put it in, heh, sorry, but it's the truth. Cut off all communication with him that way you are giving 100% attention to your BF that could end up being "the one".
2007-07-17 14:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah Smile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back with your ex. What he said does not constitute as flirting! I think that you should cut off contact completely with your ex; I know it's hard, but you have to if you want to move on with your life. It's not fair to your current bf if you keep hanging around your ex anyway.
2007-07-17 14:38:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be the opposite of every one
cuz every one is telling u to cut off the x
if that was the case u would have cut him off a long time ago
there s a bit of an old flame in u that still wants this x of urs
i say, see ur options, because bottomline, its not fare for ur current bf that u have thoughts of ur x
the reason i say that is because my x is with someone and she s thinking about me
now do u think that s fare to her current bf NO
so u need to do some soul searching and either find closure or get back with this x
ur current bf will never have all of u if u dont do this
2007-07-17 14:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by simple J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋