There are no right or wrong answers here, I would just like to hear what other people have to say. . .
I've been dating a guy for about a year now. I love him to death but he is two years younger (he is 18 years old) than me and comes from a pretty wealthy family. So, if you can imagine, he is pretty spoiled and immature and has quite a bit of growing up to do. The way he is now, I definitely do not see a future with him. Also, he lives two and a half hours away and during the summer we spend Friday-Monday together but he is in a profession that requires him to live at least 13 hours a way the rest of the year and we see each other just a few days out of each month.
I really care about him, but am I making the right decision by staying with him? I'm only twenty and not looking to get married or anything, but it almost seems like a waste of time.
2007-07-17 07:22:14 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha I'm spoiled? Thats funny. Of course I want to spend more time with him, but that isn't the problem - I knew thats how things were going to be from the begining. Spoiled is the fact that he got a $40,000 truck for his birthday two months ago and doesn't want it anymore. . .
2007-07-17 13:07:16 · update #1
I know it's hard it's better to try and move on. You said it yourself, you're only 20 and have lots of time ahead of you to meet other men that are closer in poximity and are more mature. Sometimes love just isn't enough and if the other issues weight love down then that's your cue. Good luck.
2007-07-17 07:27:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sea -N-Sun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don;t want to just flat out say that it is a waste of time, but you are so young, and you shouldn't be living the life of some woman who has to just wait around. At your age, you should be able to be with someone who you can see as often as you like, and who has alot more to offer besides immaturity and spoiled-ness. This is pretty ridiculous, and you should just try testing the waters...
2007-07-17 07:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Brit-Brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very complicated question. I think it's a waste of time since he's younger than u. You may feel better wid him now and 4 coming days, but in future u may lead to a problem. As ur point of view may not match
Always chose a person who is elder than u, who can look after you.
2007-07-17 07:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by saba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to develop a good relationship when distance is an issue...it sounds like you would like to date to discover what life has to offer rather than getting into a relationship now which would be hard anyway because the amount of time is limited when it should be just the opposite so you can learn more about each other, how you are when your together alot, what hes like when hes not in a good mood, things like that...give yourself an opportunity to develop something were your involved more than now...gl
2007-07-17 07:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by GA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationships rarely work. if he's 18 and rich, he's got a lot of growing up to do. move on. you're young enough to meet lots of other men who can have an active part in your young life. don't let life slip you by with the wrong person
2007-07-17 07:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont see a future with him- then why are you with him? Seriously- are you that desperate for love and attention? Sounds like you are just waiting until something better comes along. Stop wasting your time and move on.
2007-07-17 07:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by Amy Clark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not serious about him as in want to get married and see a long term future, which is how it should be considering the age, the you are right you for sure!
you are young and you migth be missing out on plenty others who are right for you in maturity and understanding wise!
be brave and take step forward!
all the best!
2007-07-17 07:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by Chigzy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u are if u really care about him than there is no point in leaving him because he will grow up and it is possible they may be a future
2007-07-17 07:27:37 · answer #8 · answered by Music35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is probably about a 95% chance that you are totally wasting your time... but you never know. I, personally, wouldn't bother with him. There are other fish in the sea.
2007-07-17 07:26:40 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't see a future w/ him what is the point of sticking around? You are definately wasting your time.
2007-07-17 07:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bored as hell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋