me and he punches me in the head he said if i leave him hes going to come and find me and beat me i dont know what to do help me
2007-07-17 07:12:17 · 15 answers · asked by sam 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Call a local women's shelter or social services agency. They can help you to safely regain control of your own life.
2007-07-17 07:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out as soon as possible. You are risking your life and the lives of your children if you have any. Plan ahead. Gather up any important documents such as Birth Certificate, SS Cards, immunization records , your marriage certificate and any information about bank accounts. Then call a women's shelter or a domestic abuse hotline. There is a national hotline at 1-800-799-7233. They will help you get out.
2007-07-17 14:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by EC Expert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you callled the police on one of his tantrums? This is too much. If you have kids, your children are seeing mommy being beaten, that hurts, and has a lasting effect on them. At 5 years old, I seen my dad intentionally push my mom down a flight of stairs while 5 month's pregnant with my baby sister.
My mom is still with him, they have been together for almost 30 years, but, ya know, sometimes, she acts like a little girl. I think that she has resorted back to this childlike state. GET OUT OF THE SITUATION! It's only going to get worse.
2007-07-17 07:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by Josie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a good friend to stay with and get a restraining order! if you stay in that environment you'll never have kids that wont be abused either. if youre being hit than i would guess anywhere is better than there. be strong not afraid and make sure to get that order this way he screws up its jailtime for him and you will live freely!! dont wait there are men out there that will take care of you and treat you way better. everyone has someone right thats out there but u wont find them getting beat down by a jerk!
2007-07-17 07:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by toolate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To me, the logical thing to do is to start some sort of a paper trail. By paper trail I mean go to the police station and have them document the cuts, bruises, etc, that he is leaving when he beats up on you. By documentation I mean have lots of pictures taken to document his actions against you. Next - get a restraining order against him. I f you move out have the police standing by while you are moving out. ( My husband was a police officer at one time- they know that this is one of the most dangerous and violent parts of the job). Please, please get the hel_l out of Dodge!!!!!! He is not going to change. Go to a shelter for battered and abused women. Please learn the number to the police department (emergency number) by heart. Also learn the number for the shelter by heart.
I wish you all the luck in the world - you will need it!!!!
2007-07-17 07:32:46 · answer #5 · answered by Su-Nami 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of that situation!! find someone you trust to help you, a close friend or family member. if you have no one, there are plenty of women's shelters out there that will help you out. he will not be able to get to you inside a shelter. you may also want to get a restraining order. i know it will not keep him totally away from you, but maybe it might scare him enough to stay away!! and you have it on file with your local police department.
take it from me, i lived with an abuser for 8 years, the longer you stay the worse it gets and most usually they will not come looking for you (always be on guard though just in case). and if you are with someone else (not necessarily a man) then they will not mess with you, because they dont want to look bad infront of someone else.
Good luck and God Bless you!!
2007-07-17 08:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 00:42:38 · answer #7 · answered by raffone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing you did a while back and was not pretty. One day when he was at work i packed all my stuff, left the house without him knowing, left out of the City and when i got to the new town i got a restraining order on him so he couldn't enter the town without the cops knowing his description on the cars or cars and of him...hope it helps and you get out. Don't be afraid to leave. They tell you stuff like if you leave i'll hunt you down....or your family.....mine never did. i got lucky. I think he tried to scare me....
2007-07-17 15:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the hell out! when he's gone off to work or out somehwre you pack yourself and move in with a family member or a friend you can trust then tell the police and file for a divorce and a restarining order but first you have to have proof so show them your marks and things he uses to hit you then im sure he'll get arrested for attempted murder and assualt
2007-07-19 00:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it might be painful at first, but less so in the long run, Just walk away, a man that hits will not change, it is best to leave.
2007-07-17 07:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by TransDude78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋