Me and my boyfriend had gotten in a fight and hadn't seen eachother in almost 2 weeks. My boyfriend texted me asking to hang out & go to the movies. i said ok. He just got his license about 2 weeks ago & wanted to drive me there. My parents said no. His response was "Im really mad about this. They don't trust me." I said "Well theres nothing I can do about this my parents just want to wait until youve had your license longer. I could just meet you there" then he said "whatever i dont like your parents anymore maybe some other time" i was like "if you feel that way then fine. my parents have been nothing but nice to you"
Why did he want to get me in the car so bad...? Why was it me in the car or we don't hang out?
2007-07-17 06:55:29 · 24 answers · asked by Kaylee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Psycho....girl run fast!
2007-07-17 06:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your parents a right. Your boyfriend is wrong. You are right as well. He is immature, just the kind of driver that would not be safe, an emotional one.
However, I understand why he is upset as he is trying so much to be grownup and be more mature and be older and be out on a real date in his own car, just with his girl. All that is perfectly understandable.
Obey your parents. Keep firm with your bf and tell him he will have to patient for now and eventually if he proves he is a safe driver maybe in 6 months you parents will allow you to ride with him.
It if very commonly done to wait until a new teen driver has driven for 6 months sometime even a whole year before the driver can take a teenaged passenger. This is not all that unusual and his parents really should not even let him take a young passenger until he has driven with his license for a full year.
2007-07-17 14:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriends´ anger is normal.I mean what better way to celebrate getting his license, by being able to drive his girlfriend to the movies. Don´t see any harm in that and It was a moment really important for him and he chose to share that with you. Very nice of him. Also you need to understand that his feelings got hurt when he realized that your parents doesn´t trust him enough with your safety. What he said about your parents was probably in the heat of the argument and didn´t really mean it. Imagine yourself in his spot. How would you have felt?
About your parents... well I also understand their point of view. They were also only looking out for your safety. Can´t blame.
If you want to fix things, you should let him know that you understand why he got upset and even though you wanted him to drive you, the choice was not yours to make. You do still live with your parents and what they say goes. Make is clear that what you are not willing to do is create problems at home to satisfy him. Honestly I don´t think that it´s that big of a deal.
Oh and about your last point..... If you´re not even sure if he really wanted was to just hang out or have you in the car, then it would be a good idea to rethink things.
2007-07-17 14:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by hairspray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, he is immature!
Now maybe your parents could have gave him a little more credits, as he got his licence he is perfectly able to drive.
can you imagine, you just got your licence still people don't trust you to drive? it must hurt a little bit. So it fair enough that he is upset, but he shouldn't have been upset with you, and be a bit more mature about it. actually if he really wanted you back he would have leave the car at yours and go with you.
2007-07-17 14:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by Maon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He swallowed his pride about the fight you guys had and took the first step by inviting you to the movies. He was so excited to get his license that you were the first one he thought of and called to "try it out" basically to do something. He feels hurt and your parents lack of trust as disheartening. And frankly I find your lack of empathy and the rest of the c*nt squad disheartening.
Don't get me wrong your parents have a right and are acting responsibly by doing so, but that doesn't mean you couldn't soften the blow or at least see where he was coming from.
2007-07-17 13:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by jay k 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He wanted to act like a big kid and drive his girlfriend around. BUT...your parents are completely right by not letting you go. It's too soon...he could crash very easily. If he really liked and respected you...he would've offered to bring a movie to your house just so he could spend time with you. Don't waste anymore of your time...Find someone that respects you and your parents.
2007-07-17 13:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because it's a new and exciting event in his life. But...I understand where you parents are coming from. You can talk to him about it, but he sounds quite childish when he doesn't get his way. Sounds like a headache to me. He won't be the first nor the last, don't drop him yet, just hang out...
2007-07-17 13:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by karamell08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful with this guy, sounds like it could be trouble. If a guy really cares about you, he will do whatever he can to spend time with you. When I was a teen, I got grounded and my BF came and sat with me every night on my porch right in front of my parents, that is when you know a guy is really into you. Don't waste your time on this guy, you deserve better and it sounds like you are an intelligent girl, move on...........
2007-07-17 13:59:55 · answer #8 · answered by Becca M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is childish and is trying to prove he is a man now -- which he isn't yet. Your parents are correct to not let you drive with a boy who just got his license. He is not ready to drive with one hand on the wheel and the other one - who knows where.
Forget about him. You are young. Nothing to worry about!
2007-07-17 13:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he felt slighted that you put what your parents wanted before what he wanted. I think you made the right choice though. He may have just wanted the "alone time" in the car to talk to you before you were around other people. When he thinks about it he will probably understand your choice more, once he cools down.
2007-07-17 13:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your both young, and sounds like he's very immature. Listen to your parents. They don't trust him for a reason, and even if you don't like their reasoning, they are older and wiser. As far as he is concerned move on. There are plenty of boys that will not only respect your wishes, but your parents' as well. Those are the ones you want to be with, and will more than likely get your parents' blessing.
2007-07-17 13:59:11 · answer #11 · answered by Rachael W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋