This family member has allowed/condoned abuse by others by not objecting or reporting it. Abuse was physical, emotional and sexual. I am 44 and have enough. I have explained to this person both gently and with more force that if she is going to speak about her family member/give out information on my family to them- I will not have a realtionship with her. She continues to do this saying "they are YOUR family too". To my mind family does not abuse family or name call when abuse is revealed to them. I have been blamed for the abuse my cousins suffered at the hands of my abuser -because it wasn't reported by the family member I revealed it to.
This person also endangers my health-both mental and physical.
No guilt button pushers please!!!!
2007-07-17 06:24:31 · 5 answers · asked by elizian 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At 44, you are certainly old enough to do whatever is needed to stop all this. Report the abuse to the authorities and have them handle it.
If necessary, contact a lawyer and find out what you need to do to protect yourself in this situation. Most likely you will be advised to cease interacting with her, at least in the way you are now.
As for protecting your mental and physical health, remember that no one can hurt or abuse you - at your age - unless you agree to let them. Do whatever is necessary to ensure your own safety; you cannot stand up for others unless you are safe.
You can handle all this. You already know what you need to do - so go for it!
2007-07-17 06:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by MomBear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you are responsible enough so that you can support yourself economically, physically, and emotionally.
Some times people cant get along and the best thing is just to be apart so no one suffers, even if it's family. and I don't blame you, I don't know when all this abuse happened but I think at your age you shouldn't have to deal with these issues anymore.unless you are still under their roof.if that's the case get your own place and maybe put a restraining order or something.
2007-07-17 06:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by tatys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-07-17 06:28:08 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is very confusing.
I think this answers your questions because it was so unclear and confusing.
I would not talk to anyone that abused me regardless of how old I was. I would not talk to anyone who knew and did not try to stop it. Why do you think kids runaway from home at such a young age.
I would cut ALL contact with any person that abused me from the very first time it started.
2007-07-17 06:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds you have toxic relationships with these people. I would recommend some talk therapy- definitely for yourself, and possibly the family members you have issues with. You are a grown up. You can choose to associate, or not, with whomever you want.
2007-07-17 06:32:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋