i feel like im never going to find my significant other...?

Question

i have never had any serious relationship once or ever...no one has ever loved me..you see i allways had platonic love...and now that im 22 i really lost hope that some day some one will give me the love i want..what to do??

Answer 1

With all due respect,I hope I do not hurt your feelings with this answer. But I would like to express it to you in the best way that i can. listen up cuz here it comes.

For goodness sake, you are only 20 freaking 2. How can you possibly think that life has passed you by, when you haven't really started living yet. This time in your life should be absolutely beautiful. You are building memories for the rest of your life.
Make them as beautiful as you are.

Anyone who desires love as much as you certainly knows how to give and express love.

You were only 18, 4 years ago. If you are gonna give up this soon, you should be ashamed of yourself.
Love doesn't come when you call it, if you are this much of a defeatest , its no wonder you dont have a mate. Who wants to get involved in a relationship with someone so grim.
I want you to do something for me.

Find 5 things about yourself that people should like about you and 5 things that people shouldn't like about you.

Stop doing the 5 things they shouldn't like and start doing the things they should like, twice as good, repeat this exercise, twice a day, everyday for a FULL week.

And if you can't do it yourself, ask your best friend, mother, father, etc!
You finish this project in the 7 days and you wont have anything to worry about.
good luck and please keep me posted.
if you want you can contact me directly at my yahoo 360 page

Oh, did I mention, there is a war going on?
Aids is killing many people,
people are starving all over the world
there are homeless people in America
And the hospitals are overloaded
the problem of health care for the elderly is getting worse everyday

Now imagine; Your complaint, I say tell it to stroke victim. love will come to you. For Goodness sake, you are only 22....You have got a lot of life ahead of you.



Lighten up!!!

Answer 2

I had a response but I felt it was mean and harsh, so I'm gonna give you this one instead.

If you are ugly, you will have a very hard time finding someone for a relationship that doesn't just see you as a backup sex toy. When you do find someone who can look past your undesirable features, you might mess it up by being to clingy because you will be so scared to lose him or her.

If you are attractive, you may not have been in a serious relationship because you may have only had platonic love because who ever really loved you in the past was never given a chance because you wanted someone as or more beautiful than yourself.

In both cases, look for the signs of who really likes you for you. Take a chance with the unknown.

AND.... work out, go to the beauty salon (a real one...not your cousins house) and get a makeover, Plastic surgery if you know yourface is jacked up, fix your teeth if your smile looks like you just chewed on some granite, get waxed if you look like a female version of Robin Williams. There are alot of different things you can do,.....

....but the most important thing is to first love yourself.

=^_^=

"I say what people want to say, but can't"

Answer 3

you are so young, do not worry about these things, use this time in your life to get a good education and then a job. Set up your future the way you want it before someone else comes along. One think people don't realize, that when you do fall in love and become a partnership instead of an idividual is that you will have to give up something from your self, especially women, even if you have the most wonderful man in the world, most women are the ones to make the compromizes and the most sacrifices in the relationship. I know I'm married to one of the most wonderful men in the world and it is still a compromize and a sacrifice, you will no longer be an individual. So use this time to find who you really are and who you want to be. Because once you do find Mr. Perfect you will never have your single life again. Also the more established and self assured person you are, you will be attracting men that are at your same level and the more you both have in common, regardless if it the simple things in life like music and movies to the harder things like financial equality, the happier you both will be.
You are worrying about nothing, this isn't the 1800's where women had to get married at 14, now a days women can be empowered and do things their way. They are getting married later in life and having children later in life, and living healthier and longer lives. Everything you do in your life now will effect your future so be patient and work on the important things like school, career, ext... It may seem hard now, but 20 years from now you will know I'm right. I wish you the best. also because you are not in any relationships you don't have to worry about pregnancy, deadbeat husbands, deadly sexual diseases, his looser friends hanging out all the time, shall I go on? There is a benefit to not having serious relationships at your young age. As for people loving you, don't worry, you don't even know how many guys probably loved you from affar, a lot of great guys are shy and cannot tell you how they really feel. You have to understand if you get involved with guys your age they will be as young and inexperienced as you. People are living today to 90 and 100 years of age, you will have plenty of time for love and romance. I think you will be fine if you stop worrying about it. FYI my spell check isn't working, sorry.

Answer 4

hang in there, and thank God you dont live with a broken heart missing someone that hurt you in your heart.

when you consider a guy try church and good activities and make sure the other wouldnt be into bad movies=yet there are some that get hurt by their guy or their past and go the other way which is the worst thing that one could do=Well if u truely love him why not make it real and get married?
or the option for some is to get paid for what they do-yet it is sad either way=

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

I feel sorry for their choices-Lust with or without money paid is a dead end without a future if true love and commitment to marriage isnt in there.
"The love of money is the root of all evil" the Bible-not the money but loving it more than doing what is right before God.

would you desire your future husband and children to have people pointing you out -with a bad reputation for having shacked up with this and that guy?

I rededicate each part of my body to the Lord each day and pray not to let anyone or thing take my peace and joy away--and there is a song -be careful little eyes what you see, for the father up above is looking down with love, so be careful little eyes what you see

in Jesus amazing grace that saved me=John 3 repented from sins, asked Jesus in to help me and be my friend, amen Revelation 3:19&20
I think she was about 20 her name was Andrea or something like that maybe shorter

I guess i wrote all this to forget a new girl I met a pure Cinderella- today that is an honorable one-with a dear heart-yet I dont got a clue what tomorrow will bring.

Excellent answer. Upon further thinking i dont feel sorry for them really but some are really in need of help and need the lord like you said. they defile their bodies and will inevitably regret what they're doing.

prayin for you to make the best choice, David in Jesus amazing grace

Answer 5

You are too young to worry about this kind of thing. You should concentrate on you. Don't base your life on the girls who find "love" in high school and have a kid by the age of 18. Be yourself and do the things you love. Go out and maybe you will find someone, but don't go on a man hunt. Don't be afraid to approach a guy if you're into him though. Good luck!

Answer 6

No offense meant, yet little ones do dumb issues. they oftentimes over think of one factor of the element of what some might call insanity. loosen up, bypass with the bypass of existence for now. you're youthful sufficient to rejoice with your self and not problem approximately such issues. Why no longer take income of the time you have? once you're 40 5 you may desire to start worrying hun, and not a 300 and sixty 5 days until now. anybody meets their better half 0.5, yet no person dose at 15.

Answer 7

I'm in the same shoes as you babe.........the thing is, alot of my friend got pregnant and the dude left them or married them and now they are stuck. Pretty much stay in college and keep moving forward. If a guy comes your way then first ask yourself is he what your looking for and does he have the potential himself to commit to the type of relationship you want. Don't date players or guys who just arent that into you. It never gets anywhere. For now, just have fun! Go to movies, dancing, out to eat with the girls. The right guy will just pop in without you having to look for him. Hope this helps.

Answer 8

Having someone love you isn't all it's cracked up to be...the best thing you can do with your life is to be independant and be in love with yourself. If someone comes along that can enrich your life and make you a better you, then all the best.

Don't expect a man to make you feel like you're 100% whole - that can only come from YOU.

Answer 9

I've never had one either but I'mnot as worried as you. Maybe because i'm a guy? Anyway, put yourself out there and the right guy will come around. Remember that some women get boyfriends who leave them heartbroken and scarred for life and they wish they were in your shoes. A one night stand, I won't be that worried about as long as he uses a condom but for a boyfriend, I say pick very wisely because women have gotten killed for making the wrong choice!

Answer 10

let me tell you the truth, I was married at 18, divorced by 21,thought I was in love it was only lust.... anyways, years and years I kept looking and finding zilch!Finally I gave up the search , then 3 years ago I am walking to the store, in the rain to buy some groceries, a car went around the block and pulled over and asked if I needed a ride, I accepted and we fell in love that day within a few hours time. we plan on getting married in the very near future. I was 46 when I met him.My Mom always told me it happens when you least expect it to and when you aren't looking....she was right!!!!!!!!!1