I've been with my bf for over a year hes overseas atm for his sport and i broke up with him on sunday (two days ago) because i can't trust him and i felt like he was changing..and my insecuritys..he hasnt called or emailed me..im dying ..im stressing so much..should i just not email him at all? or should i send him an email telling him how much he hurt me and please dont contact me when he gets back?..i know him so well i know hel chase me when he gets back in 16 days..im so scared..what do i do when he calls..im scared il bursts into tears..and take him back..im really lonely i dont want him to have that satsfaction..should i just act happy and say im too busy to talk? please tell me what to do..im so lonely
im scared he hasnt emailed or called because hes met someone else overseas..
2007-07-17 05:59:15 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
aww sweety.
u still really like him
ur just afraid to get hurt again.
u gotta take some chances.
email him and ask him how he is doing (jus causual)
and when he comes chasing u, dont take him back so quickly.
make him work for ur trust.
2007-07-17 06:03:59 · answer #1 · answered by anysportzchik 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You broke up with him? Listen, you are creating your own stress. Why would he email you if YOU broke up with him? Why would you email him if You already broke up? There is no need for further explainations. Unless of course you want to create lots of drama. He's not going to track you down if that were the case he would send you an email while he's away. Your so scared? Of what? If you are sure you did the right thing then your mind set should be -he is past history - and move on. Break ups are never easy. Give yourself some time. Definately do not jump into a (rebound) relationship. Think about and start doing other things that interest you, something you think you always wanted to do - like hiking not like another guy. Call a GIRL friend. If you don't have any friends well first of all you should never have ditched them for a guy and if you did call anyway b/c they probably miss you. Your lonely? You need to learn to be your own best friend. Do all the things that make you happy. Tell yourself this day, week, month, year is ME TIME. And when you can do that without being in a relationship thats when you know your ready for a relationship.
2007-07-17 13:22:01 · answer #2 · answered by celeste 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him two days ago, and now you want opinions on how to get back with him, yet deal with the perceived problems between you two?
Tell him what's bothering you & why you broke up with him. Do you not trust him at the moment because he's overseas, or do you not trust him because he has actually been unfaithful?
Tell him you're feeling insecure & want him to hold you in his arms again like before.
Talk to each other, communicate, learn what bothers him and let him learn what bothers you -- share with each other to have a good, healthy loving relationship together, no matter how many miles separate the two of you.
Best of luck to you!!!
2007-07-17 13:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by Andy K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're a little confused.
You want him, you're lonely, scared he found someone else, but you broke up with him. You should definitely NOT contact him first. It is over, and you need to let him go now, that's why you broke up with him, remember?
If he calls you or you see each other somewhere, try to act like you don't miss him. If you can't help it, just tell him you can't talk to him and walk away or hang up the phone. You are in control here.
2007-07-17 13:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have this REALLY annoying and strange habit of NOT calling!even you sob and cry and weep on the phone and ask them if its over, they just won't say anything.
I have NO idea what goes on in their tiny brains!
They don't mean to hurt you or so they say!
So if thats the kind he is , he will come back and try and sort things out with you, at that time just be open about everything. If theres no trust theres no relationship.
Breakups should be done in person ....... not on the phone or email!
2007-07-17 13:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by Slite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are you sure if he has found someone else...? well there is no point in dragging a relationship if it is not giving you happiness..neways if you are not more into him..then simply tell him that it is not working out between the two of you..and you dont wish to keep in touch..if he chases you real bad ( that means either he loves you or he is psycho)...so there is nothing to be scared...think wisely..how you want to go for it..he will not hurt you unless he is psychic...
i am sure he has better things to do ...than chasing a girl who is not intrested in him...chill and take care..
2007-07-17 13:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by mango 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him so what do you care if he doesn't call? Isn't that what you want? As far as when he returns just be too busy to talk to him. And I mean too busy really. Go out with your friends and have some fun. You will get over him soon enough and will find someone to love you and only you..........
2007-07-17 13:05:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mike S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He HAS met someone else, If hes too busy to drop you a line every day, hes busy with someone else, thats a sure tell sign, just move on, find some hang out spots, someone else wants you out there, you just gotta open your eyes, men are all the about the same, so this "special" bond you shared with your ex, i can guarantee youll find it with someone else
2007-07-17 13:06:52 · answer #8 · answered by tweek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your concern? Are you afraid to lose him because you think you will not find another? The fact that you took the time to evaluate the relaitionship proves you have a lot to give.
Blow him off and wait for that that man that wil make you feel like the princess you are.
2007-07-17 13:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Caretaker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him....who cares if he met someone else. He is a free man now. You need to avoid his calls and contacts.
2007-07-17 13:02:56 · answer #10 · answered by Blessed 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋