How do you survive?

Question

My boyfriend is leaving for the marines next week for bootcamp. That is a whole 3 months....
I have lived w/ him for 2 years seeing him everyday. I need to put some positive thoughts in my head about this. I'm not really happy that he joined but I wil support him because he really wants to do this. I'm also afraid I will never see him much ever again because he will go live on a base very very far away from here. :(

Answer 1

I empathize. It is hard. I have been married to a military guy for 5 years now. I knew what I had gotten into so it's hard to gripe but it still hurts. He has served a 6 month tour in Iraq and will now go back for a 12 month tour in January.

If your relationship is strong, it will survive being separated. But the hard part is dealing with him going overseas to fight. It's a fear that never goes away but being with a soldier is very rewarding as well. People not in the fold can never know the character of a man who fights for his country. They are the most loyal and trustworthy men in the world.

If you are strong enough to support him and be alone while doing it than you will succeed in having an amazing partner who will stand by you for your entire life.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Just remember that after he graduates bootcamp, he'll be a Marine. Send him letters, make a scrapbook of what you have been doing/feeling while he is gone. He may decide to marry you at some point in which case, you'll be living on a base wherever he is stationed.

Chin up hun. Keep yourself busy, it's really the only thing I can tell you.

Answer 3

You have to keep focused. Think of the sacrifice HE is making and support it. Can you imagine doing anything scarier? If you think you cannot stay the course, you have to tell him now. When he calls home, you have to sound and act strong and faithful and proud. I think the Military men and women have it hard enough with the whole world doubting their mission. If they are commited to it, then they are stronger than most people. Be supportive and treat him like a man of strenght and honor. In turn, you will be strong and honorable.

Answer 4

Well, you could volunteer to help others and get your mind off it.

Or, you could help someone with the "war effort", perhaps in a for profit venture, and perhaps save the poor soul's life.

For instance, given GWB is a bigot, he won't let millions of us work for the war effort without "permission" from someone he would (I suspect, his bigoty limits us in any case). (I know the propaganda says this is a free market economy / democracy, but any lowest court judge has a practical ability to exclude anyone from business thus technically making this a fascist or communist country, depending on your point of view - the difference being fascists see government as serving business and communists see government controlling the means of production. In fact, I am excluded (for a civil conviction of having "failed at marriage" to a person who died nearly ten years before said "conviction"). Literally almost all the "liberals" that worked up until Reagan have "left", mostly involuntarily, defense work. Most of us "require" supervision to work again in even the most benign ways to aid the troops; the courts refuse us the right to any participation in the economy at all unless to volunteer ourselves. The longest jail sentences available to any court official are literally available only in "civil cases" as a matter of treason against the Constitution in the "sacred name of the Ronald Reagan Revolution - a declared civil war".

My partner and I were both shot by a conservative Gunman being escorted by police, I suspect because we just weren't organized criminal freindly enough (conservative).

So I suspect very strongly of what of I speak.

But I do think I could help the nation. I am a survivor and I have fought back from severe retardation from the wounds to where I can pass an IQ test at where I was just out of high school. (135). And I have worked at a tentative design for a prosthetic, a light weight, bullet proof non-slip CVT transmission and etc. But, owning a patent is a form of holding a license. Liberals such as I don't get to own anything in a conservative world, and we don't get license.

I am a loom fixer, trained in a textile mill, as far as anyone can be made to tell you.This means that the feds gave the woolen mill tax breaks for employing me, because I was considered fully capable of building from nothing more than sticks and rocks a machine that might be needed for national security; before the conservatives put bullets into my brain.

I have also been influencial in aerospace, "unofficially".

Answer 5

Depending where you live, he will either go to Parris Island for Boot Camp or San Diego. After Boot Camp he comes home on leave. This could be anywhere from 20 to 30 days. He then either goes to Camp Lejuene, NC or Camp Penelton, Calif. for Infantry training or to another location if he is going to school. After he gets to his permanent duty station, why can't you move there?

Answer 6

You must be married to get housing and it's not likely the Marines will give him base housing until he is at least an E4. And that means two or three years. He will get a housing allowance.

Answer 7

has he asked you to join him at his new base? has he asked you to marry him? if not, joining the marines might be his way of letting go. i'm sorry if that hurts you, but it might be the truth. talk to him about it.

then, no matter what the outcome is, remember that God has a specific plan for you and life is the time you spend figuring that out. every day, when you wake up, think of three things that make you genuinely happy. be careful not to tie those bits of happiness to other people. write them down if you need to and refer to them every day. look at your life. this is your gift! you get to do with it what ever YOU want. what do YOU want to do today? that's a great question.

no matter how tough it is, it will be better tomorrow. i promise.

Answer 8

im a british army wife and my hubbys just came back from afghan after 6 months... you wil get by... its **** the separation but when you see them again its so fantastic and you start the process of falling in love and getting to know each other all over again...

there will be times you feel like just crying and curling up in bed for days on end but its better to just get out there and keep yourself busy...

Answer 9

just stay positive and dont get negative things get in your way and also get it in your head that that is what he wants to do in life and its his choice. in a few months you will be a bit better though even though he wont be around at least youll have a little (huge) break form him and i know that when he comes back the two of you will be much better

Answer 10

You need to think positive thoughts. Spend some time with your friends and your family.

Just remember that he's in good hands. Pray for him, too.