I was hanging out with this girl for weeks. She randomly asked me to hang out so i knew she liked me. She was clearly into me and interested. We talked every day for weeks and got along great. I told her I liked her and she said it wasnt the right time for a relationship but she liked me. She said it was a possibility in the future. She then said we would hang out after summer break (im in college) and "see how things go." Why would we have to hang out again and "see how things go" if we already know we get along great and like each other? Guys what would you do if a girl said this to you? and Girls any advice on what I should do?
2007-07-17 05:41:03 · 23 answers · asked by South Florida Sentinels 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She likes you, but wants to bone other guys at the same time. Duh
2007-07-17 05:44:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should've created an opportunity to "lay the smackdown" as soon as you figured out that she was into you. While you were wasting time, did you realize she was coming in contact with other guys she also found attractive as well. She might have chosen someone else. Except you have lots of lotion to spare, I'd put her on the back burner (like she put you), stop worrying about her and have fun talking to other girls. Its not worth the wait, a girl who gives you excuses will probably always give excuses from then on. By next summer she might say "in the fall" or "I have a boyfriend now, sorry"
2007-07-17 12:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Pe-nan-ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change. One summer can make either you or her a completely different person. Personally she might want to close some other 'open' relationship, or she wants to play over her summer. Or she's worried you're going to. It was a save move on her part in the eyes of another girl. Men don't trust women, and women don't trust men. So, go back to college in the fall and sweep her off her feet.
2007-07-17 12:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's not into relationships now...
or
she's not thinking of getting into a relationship with YOU.
I'm not busting your chops here.. it just happens that way sometimes.
She could also want to take things real slow.. probably based on her past experiences, or on what her friends have experienced... Don't let yourself get used.. but don't be in a hurry either.. Keep your cool.. :)
Oh.. another thing.. maybe she wants to hang out again and see how things go.. because the next time will be different, since both of you have expressed your feelings to each other and things will be different this time around. :)
2007-07-17 13:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Rogee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get very protective when it comes to there heart. Just letting you know. Maybe it was the truth, what she said. She wasnt ready for a relationship. How about hang and really see how things go. Then maybe she'll decide shes ready for you in her life.
2007-07-17 12:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by Simple. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weather or not this relationship goes anywhere, it seems to me you could have a great friend. Why do many people think that friendship between the opposite sexes has to be more that just friendships. Maybe it comes with age. I know that its hard when you are younger to find common interests, but as you grow older, you will find that making sacrifices for friendships (with either sex) is very beneficial.
2007-07-17 12:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by coachotis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might be trying to see how a bit of time might feel for the both of you to be without each other. If things fizzle, then it wasn't a strong connection, if you can't stop thinking about each other, then it might be a lasting relationship.
Could be that she was seeing someone else at the time, but it wasn't going so well, and she happened upon you, so now she has to end it with him.
Just a couple of scenarios to mull over, hope it all works out.
2007-07-17 12:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Underestimated Overstatement 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes some things about you, she finds you at least somewhat attractive, but she is not yet sure that she wants to be committed to you and you only. Right now she still wants to date around, but she also is still open to the possibility that she may want to be with you.
For you, it's simple...you like her and want to be with her. For her, she likes you, but she likes Todd over here too, and she wonders if maybe Ben would give her a chance, and what if she meets someone awesome at this concert she's going to this weekend?
so, it's simple...keep reminding her how much you like her, keep being fun to be around, don't pressure her to make a decision and don't get frustrated or angry with her, but, keep being persistent about wanting to see her often, keep showering her with compliments of all the things about her that you like, until she eventually realizes that you are more committed to her than anyone else is, and that you appreciate the things about her that nobody else sees. Then she'll want to commit to you.
2007-07-17 12:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Janelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she isn't ready and you have to respect that. By telling you she wants to hang out, she is letting you know that she wants to keep communication open but you should be happy she is being honest.
Give her time, space and don't look like you are groveling over this girl and see what she does. Live your life and se in the future where she fits in.
2007-07-17 12:46:28 · answer #9 · answered by Frank L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she just wants friendship with you. I would move on...if she needs to see how things go after summer she may be seeing if there is someone she likes more during the time apart.
2007-07-17 12:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by txgreeneyes41 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a girl, but my take on it could be a few different things:
1) she is interested in someone else who lives near her right now, and she wants to pursue that a bit
2) she's using caution in getting involved in a relationship and wants to "try you before she buys you" kinda thing
3) you guys don't live locally and maybe she is waiting when she can be closer in proximity to you.
Any of thsoe ring true?
She does genuinely sound like she likes you, though.
2007-07-17 12:45:19 · answer #11 · answered by OhioFantastic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋