or my best friend... i'm getting tired of it and i wish it would stop.... i don't want to lose him though.... i love him sooo much..... what can i do??
2007-07-17 05:33:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been dating for almost a year and he'll apologize if i talk to him about it but he just does it again........ i don't want to breakup with him cuz i know he won't physically hurt me
2007-07-17 05:45:00 · update #1
sounds "bipolar" - have a doctor see him
2007-07-17 05:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
First you must realize that there are other guys out there. When you say he takes it out on you, are we talking physically? If so you NEED TO KICK HIM TO THE CURB! Any man that will do physical harm to any woman has the ability to do other things that can harm your life. What do you parents say? Do they even know? It sounds like he may need to be on meds.
If there is not physical harm, then the best thing you can do, if you care for him as you say, is be his friend and refer him to a specialist. If he refuses to go, then as advised before, let him go... find another guy that will treat you right.
2007-07-17 12:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that while you may love him but you can not change who he is. If he is having "moodswings" and is "REALLY ANGRY" if it hasn't gotten physical yet it will. Have you talked to him about it when things are good? Does he get defensive and angry? If you can not talk to him about it and he is not willing to get help or change his behavior you need to cut the ties now before things get bad....It has been my experience that it definitely progresses...verbal then physical.
2007-07-17 12:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Melinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey u should leave him before if gets worse. and there are lots of guys in this world and u should keep an eye open and set ur standerds high and dont waste time on losers some day someone will come anlong and be perfect. u should have lots of hope and never ever give up. good luck and you'll be in my prayers. :]
2007-07-17 12:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by glittery kitty kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would get away from him you don't think he would hurt you but you never know if he takes that much out on you that you have to write for help there is something wrong...no matter what he does it and says sorry and you think its all better what if he hits you and says sorry is it really ok then?
if he still want ot be w/ him tell him to get help and then call ya
2007-07-17 12:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'Mood swings' is an excuse for inability to control emotions. If he gets angry and takes it out on you, he is using you as an emotional punching bag. He is abusing you emotionally.
We all have occasional meltdowns, but if he is continously doing this to you and leaving you an emotional wreck, then sorry, but he does not love you, and frankly, how can you love someone who causes you pain?
2007-07-17 12:38:46 · answer #6 · answered by bethanne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lay it on the line to him, he either gets counseling or he is history. You can wind up injured or dead so cut your losses now, don't wait for the situation to correct itself.
2007-07-17 12:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him anger management it does help and this way he can relax or talk to him about how it is affecting you and how it makes you feel if he wont change you got no choice but to leave before he starts hitting you or worse
2007-07-17 12:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you can suggest counseling unless you think he'll freak.
if so say you taking your anger out on me or my bestfriend is not okay. either it stops or we stuff.
if he cares about you enough he'll cut the cr@p.
be firm... good luck!
i hope it works out well =)
2007-07-17 12:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if its any chemical dependency involved or mental problems.. see about his life outside of you ..maybe has some influence
2007-07-17 12:37:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jackofalltrades216 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him it needs to stop. Tell him that you are willing to do ANYTHING you can to help him get over his problem because you love him to death. If he doesn't change move on, you don't deserve verbal abuse.
2007-07-17 12:37:11 · answer #11 · answered by Jack B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋