My dad and i never see eye to eye most times. We dont agree on anything. He does his thing, i do mine. This has been going on for 42 redundant years! Plus, he has an ugly habit of being a kleptomaniac OMG..can there be peace and co-exsistance between two worlds apart? Im 42..he's in his 70's..there's not much time left ya know
2007-07-17 04:55:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am the same way with my Father In Law. We just each try to stay apart as much as possible, even in the same apartment. When he does talk to me it is often to say something really rude. He reduced me to tears once, and I had to go back to my motel room. It hurt my Husband to see me like that.
After that day, I made up my mind not to pay any attention to what FIL says, anymore. In a few more years, no one will even know he was on this earth, so his words are empty and mean nothing. Guess what, it worked.
You cannot control what anyone else says or does, but you are in complete control of how you choose to react to it. I pretend it is one of those grouchy puppets on TV talking, and it is all a joke.
2007-07-17 08:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by Yarnlady_needsyarn 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Exactly my situation and I'm also 42. He never has wanted a thing to do with me, from the day I was born. He doesn't even accept my son as his grandson. So I just stay away. He knows my door is open any time he'd like to come around and apologize for his behavior, but until that time I live my life and he can live his. Your dad might never change his ways and you have to just be prepared to accept that.
2007-07-17 05:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to start by accepting that this is how he is and that he's not going to change. Try to spend time together doing things that work for both of you that don't cause debates. Also, no matter what, he's your dad, do your best to spend some quality time together before it's too late!! Good luck
2007-07-17 05:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by cosmicalbitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya. I am the sameway with my Dad. What I find works with him is to just let him talk. If he has any hobbies or things he likes to do. I try to relate to him through those things. Seems to help. Also, I don't pick up on the little things. Not worth it to me. I go to his house to see him. Keep things simple between you......good luck
2007-07-17 05:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. If this has been ongoing for 42 years it probably isn't going to change. Move on.
2007-07-17 04:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to find something you both have in common for example maybe you both love your mom or your children find something in common and work on that
2007-07-17 04:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by wkemrer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋