please read my last ? for the details. I haven't really gotten any answers yet. please don't be negative about having to go read the last ?....if you don't want to then dont
2007-07-17 04:36:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to fill everyone in....he was just freaked out that it actually happened after all this time. he apologized for not talking to me & everything is great now!
2007-07-18 02:01:17 · update #1
if you think he is the one then talk to him, but don`t be demanding or clinging. ask him to hang out or see a movie.
what do you have to lose and at this point what will he say except sure, lets go
2007-07-17 04:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that with a girls once, kind of the same situation, old HS friend never hooked up until years later, Had sex a few times but I thought the sex was bad and did not feel any chemistry with her not before or after, but the young 20 something y.o. guy brain does not use the excuse of not having chemistry as a good reason not to get laid.
Regretted it from the moment I did it, then I distanced myself from her because I was uncomfortable with the situation. I have had no desire to contact her ever again.
I admit to being the bad guy on this one, live and learn.
Maybe my situation will shine some light for you. Then at least there would be some value in the experience.
2007-07-17 04:47:56 · answer #2 · answered by TOMCTOM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately guys will do that. Don't get me wrong guys, there are a few of you out there that are better than that and won't be like that, and there are some girls out there too that will, but for the most part IT IS a guy thing. Love 'em and leave 'em. Hate to be the one to break it to you darling, but that is one thing their best at. Get you all worked up and then disappear.
Seriously, hopefully he's just a little freaked out over finally getting you after all those years and he will come around. If you really want him don't be too overbearing and scare him away, just take things a little slower and when you feel the time is right and things haven't improved try to talk to him about it.
2007-07-17 05:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but well if he wasnt in it for commitment and marriage what do u really expect? Just stay away from the movie buisness=yet there are some that get hurt by their guy or their past and go the other way which is the worst thing that one could do=Well if u truely love him why not make it real and get married?
or the option for some is to get paid for what they do-yet it is sad either way=
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I feel sorry for their choices-Lust with or without money paid is a dead end without a future if true love and commitment to marriage isnt in there.
"The love of money is the root of all evil" the Bible-not the money but loving it more than doing what is right before God.
would you desire your future husband and children to have people pointing you out -with a bad reputation for having shacked up with this and that guy?
I rededicate each part of my body to the Lord each day and pray not to let anyone or thing take my peace and joy away--and there is a song -be careful little eyes what you see, for the father up above is looking down with love, so be careful little eyes what you see
in Jesus amazing grace that saved me=John 3 repented from sins, asked Jesus in to help me and be my friend, amen Revelation 3:19&20
I think she was about 20 her name was Andrea or something like that maybe shorter
I guess i wrote all this to forget a new girl I met a pure Cinderella- today that is an honorable one-with a dear heart-yet I dont got a clue what tomorrow will bring.
Excellent answer. Upon further thinking i dont feel sorry for them really but some are really in need of help and need the lord like you said. they defile their bodies and will inevitably regret what they're doing.
prayin for you to make the best choice, David in Jesus amazing grace
2007-07-17 05:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Corner him (which means meet him in a situation where you both have time) and have a little chat. Say something along the lines of, "Well it happened and it probably wasn't a good idea and I wouldn't have done it except for the drinks. But, we did it and can't change that. I like you very much and do not want what may have been a mistake to separate us. It seems to me that has been happening because you seem distant. I want you to know how much I care about you, I do not want to lose you, and want you to know I neither blame nor condemn you for what happened. How do you feel about what happened and what I just said?" Have your fingers crossed when you say those things. You'll do well.
2007-07-17 04:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you may or may not have messed up your chances for any type of future relationship with this guy, but basically look at it this way....
He 'had' a big crush on you in hs... now his feelings were from a while back... while your feelings for him are fresh and new... he has filled his 'fantasy', while you were experiencing something new...
I say be straight forward with how you're feeling and be open to whatever his response will be... don't get mad or angry if he tells you he doesn't want anything more to do with you... hell he may say he wants something more.... but by playing the waiting game or trying to get him to say certain things you'll never find out...
Play out the worst and best scenrio in your mind and be okay with the outcome...
2007-07-17 04:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get so hung up on the one guy. There's probably a thousand guys you could fall in love with, in your own town. A year from now you won't even remember his name. Check out the scenery..
2007-07-17 04:41:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from last :
"And then he said that he was happy that after all this time he finally got me"
Bingo. He got you. Doesn't need you anymore. Sorry. Next time think twice before you sleep with people you don't know.
2007-07-17 04:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably didn't wait long enough before you had sex with him.
Next time you decide to be with a man, wait a little while longer and it will be more special.
If you screw someone you just met (before you truly get to know them), then it usually winds up in heartache! :-(
I hope you used condoms.
Cheers
2007-07-17 04:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Guy was only looking for sex, not a long term relationship. Thats how most guys r. i would recomend abstanence.
2007-07-17 04:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Dobe777 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋