Hi Everyone,
I apreciate everyones responses and advise. It is greatly appreciate. While I know my posting regarding my BF & I are confusing. You'll need to some of it two or three times to get all of the intricacies straight. Just to be clear the woman I'm referrging to is not the mother of is boys, but his previous ex before him and I dated. He is not the father of her child. While I know her boy is attached to my BF & his boys, which is understanable. It seems 2 me that my BF guy has a habit of spreading himself around several women, & not remaining committed 2 any of them. Add to that their kids, his kids, my daughter become attached to him, and each other (kids bond more readily and more deeply sometimes than adults). The other women kept calling him texting him cause obviously he had not made clean breaks with any of them, and they used the childrens' attachment to him and his kids as a way of keeping ties on him.
2007-07-17 04:35:45 · 5 answers · asked by Still I Rise!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He seems comfortable in that role, maybe because it makes him feel powerful and important, being in the role as "saviour" and protector of all these women and their kids. He may be the type of man who will never settle with any one woman long-term, preferring instead to attempt to cater to many, and leaving when one woman complains too much. That "harem" mentality he has will not sit well with a woman who wants someone to commit to her solely, which is probably why I need to move on, take some "me" time for now. The reality is that it hurst and I do still love him. he revealed a plethora of things to me that I didn't like and I'm aren't budging on. Taking care of his own children is what he is definitely obligated to do. He has went above and beyond. Worrying about me and your feelings wasn't on the top of his list...I've learned, never make someone a priority when you are just an option...
2007-07-17 04:38:41 · update #1
Hun, sounds like you are in the Female Fix-it mode. You already know his short comings and I understand your feelings for this apparently compassionate man, but his compassion for others is going to do you in for the long run. You can not seem to trust his motives and a good relationship that does not make. He will only change if he wants to and right now you want him to. Let him go. Let him do his own thing. If he really wants to stay with you and make you the one. He will come back. But for now he is going to mean heartbreak for you over and over and over again. Let him go and find someone more deserving of you. Bless you, hun.
2007-07-25 04:28:49 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've pretty much summed the guy up and you already know what you need to do...even if it is painful now. He is NOT the guy you really want, so why waste anymore time with him? Move on, make a clean break so it's not as hard on your kids and find someone who's committed to just you.
2007-07-24 01:08:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend once told me, "When everything's complicated and you don't know where to start.. Drop everything and start all over again." It's hopeless when you know you can give more to the relationship, but the person whom you expected to support you, seem to have other things in mind. Waste of time and emotion, so drop it! Find yourself a man who appreciates you; respects you; values you; supports you; and have the same purpose as you do. Pull yourself up.. Just think," IT'S HIS LOSE AND SOMEONE'S GAIN "
gO gIrL!
2007-07-25 02:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kaye Bennette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can definitely do better than him. You deserve a man who solely responds to you and is commited to you. While it'll hurt now to cut lose, you have to sooner or later.
2007-07-18 07:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a lot of writing.
You just need to trust your instincts. He is not going to commit the way you want him to!
2007-07-25 03:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋