ok i am pregnant and have a daughter and im just like any other person i really want sumbody to share my life with but guys arent interested in girls that have kids i knoe ive been told so men you dont have to tell me... i just want that feling of love and you know all that warm gushy stuff lol... so is it a waste of time to look or do you think that maybe love and the perfect man will just find me some day?? thats what my friends keep telling me...
2007-07-17 04:31:20 · 13 answers · asked by audrajean05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok i do take care of my children and i do plan on doing that.. im just saying id like to have that empty spot filled in your life and that feeling that having another person gives you ya know>??
2007-07-17 04:38:45 · update #1
WELL SWEETIE, IT'S REALLY HARD 2 FIND A GOOD MAN WHO IS WILLING 2 ACCEPT U AND UR CHILDREN. VERY HARD, BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE. MY OPINION IS DO NOT LOOK 4 LUV RIGHT NOW. U NEED 2 TAKE CARE OF U AND UR TWO CHILDREN (AS U PLAN 2 DO) AND JUST BE A FAMILY.
AFTER EVERYTHING HAS SETTLED A LITTLE, THEN GO OUT WITH FRIENDS AND MAYBE YOU'LL MEET MR. RIGHT. HE DOES EXIST, HE REALLY DOES. SOMETIMES WE CAN'T SEE HIM AND HE JUST GETS SNATCHED RIGHT UP AND PROBABLY BY SOME MEAN *****!!!!! I HATE SEEING FREAKING ALMOST PERFECT GUYS WITH MEAN BITCHES. THAT'S JUST THE WAY THE BALL ROLLS THO.
ANYWAY, UR YOUNG, YOU'LL FIND LUV. DON'T CHASE IT SWEETIE. IT'LL COME ON IT'S OWN. LISTEN 2 UR FRIENDS. THEY SOUND WISE AND IT ALSO SOUNDS LIKE THEY HAVE UR BEST INTEREST AT HEART. LUV WILL FIND A WAY.
JUST BE VERY PICKY AND VERY CAREFUL WHO U CHOOSE AS A PARTNER, REMEMBER HE WILL BE YOUR CHILDRENS STEP DAD, AND HE'LL PLAY A HUGE ROLE IN THEIR LIVES. UR CHILDREN COME FIRST ALWAYS AND THEN A MAN.
I KNOW WHAT U MEAN BY THAT EMPTY SPOT SWEETIE, BUT OPEN YOURSELF UP AND LET UR CHILDREN FILL THAT SPOT, I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND UR A WOMAN AND AS A WOMAN U NEED LUV AND AFFECTION, SOMEONE 2 JUST FREAKING BE THERE MAN!!!!!!!! I KNOW, BUT SOMETIMES IT'S BETTER 2 JUST BE ALONE 4 A WHILE. GET THINGS TOGETHER AND SITUATE YOURSELF, SO THAT HEAVEN FORBID IF HE WERE 2 LEAVE, YOU'D BE JUST FINE.
U DON'T NEED A MAN 2 COMPLETE U, A MAN IS JUST SOMEONE WHO WILL BE UR COMPANION, UR LOVER, UR FRIEND, HE'S NOT NECESSARY 2 FEEL COMPLETE. SOME PEOPLE SAY THIS IS SO. I DON'T BELIEVE IT. I'M A WOMAN AND I DON'T NEED A MAN 2 FEEL COMPLETE. MY BF AND I WERE TOGETHER 4 TEN YEARS AND I RECENTLY BROKE UP WITH HIM CUZ HE JUST COULDN'T KEEP UP AND TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS LIKE HE NEEDED 2.
SO I BROKE IT OFF. I DON'T NEED SOMEONE HOLDING ME BACK. RIGHT NOW I'M TAKING A BREAK, I'M NOT HEART BROKEN OVER IT CUZ IT'S BEEN A LONG TIME COMING, I DIDN'T WANT 2 BE WITH SOMEONE ELSE, U KNOW SOMETIMES U JUST GET USED 2 BEING WITH THAT CERTAIN SOMEONE, WELL THAT HAPPENED 2 ME, BUT I'M OVER IT AND I LEFT. I FEEL THAT I'M BETTER OFF ALONE 4 THE TIME BEING, AND ONE DAY I'LL HAVE LUV AGAIN. ONE DAY, BUT I'M NOT LOOKING. IF IT FALLS IN MY LAP, I'LL ANSWER THE CALL, BUT I DON'T WANT 2 RUSH ANYTHING RIGHT NOW.
SO MY ANSWER 2 U SWEETIE, IS LUV WILL FIND U ONE DAY. GIVE IT TIME, HEAL UR HEART AND UR SOUL AND JUST ENJOY UR PRECIOUS CHILDREN. OUR CHILDREN R ALL WE HAVE IN THE END. WE LIVE 4 THEM. DON'T GET ME WRONG, U DESERVE AND R ENTITLED 2 LUV, HELL YEAH!!!!! AND I WISH U LUCK AND STRENGTH SWEETIE. TAKE CARE.
2007-07-17 11:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's out there and when the time is right it will just happen. For now just concentrate on being a good Mom to your kids. When he does come along, you'll want him to see that you have children with good manners who listen to their Mom. Don't become one of those Moms who just sit there and yell at the kids, get up and go tend to them. If you feel there are other things that would make a man look the other way, work on changing those things about yourself to be the best you can be when your Prince Charming does come along. Good Luck! =)
2007-07-17 04:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by DB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't believe that just because u have kids that guys won't want you. I met my first husband while I had a 3 yr old and was pregnant. that lasted 10 years. I now have 4 children and a great boyfriend. Second while your first priority is your kids it is nice to have someone to share things with. My advice....don't try too hard to find someone...date a little ( be honest and upfront about your kids) and when that person comes into your life you'll know...Good Luck
2007-07-17 04:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by a j 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have patience. You want the right man that will love you both. You are now a package deal and you have to be more discriminating than other women because it's not just your life that you are playing with now.
2007-07-17 04:34:56 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient.Dont just go for any guy that gives you attention,you deserve someone good!I know plenty of women who are single mothers and that have met guys that they have been with for a very long time in loving relationships...You will find it oneday.
2007-07-17 04:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Wandering Mind 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mom was 16 whenever she had me. she had the same feeling you do right now but she eventually met a man who loved her and me. they have been together for almost 15 years now and have a beautiful relationship. there are men out there that dont mind if you are a single parent. they may be a bit harder to find but just keep looking. i know how impossible it probably sounds but trust me, someone is out there for you.
2007-07-17 04:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmm sounds like ur carryin triplets
2016-05-20 02:36:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your friends. I know plenty of single mom's who are dating or in a relationship. The mature guys will have no problem being with you...
2007-07-17 04:37:26 · answer #8 · answered by suan 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Right now you need to concentrate on raising your children.
2007-07-17 04:35:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should continue on having babies with different guys till you find the right one.
2007-07-17 04:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋