For the bachlorette party the plan is to take the bride out for dinner and drinks before the Big night out on the town, so do I still bring a gift? I don't know if this matters but the bridal shower is the next day. A co-worker told me that if I'm a bridesmaid I just have to help with the cost of the bachlorette party and take a gift to the bridal shower, but that a wedding gift isn't necessary. Is that correct?
2007-07-17 04:25:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i can't believe people still ask these questions. yes, you have to bring a gift. i don't care what etiquette says or some of these people on here. a gift is required for the shower (showering the bride with gifts) and one is highly expected (but by true true etiquette standards not required) for the wedding. not required for the bachelorette party, the night on the town is enough. just make sure you all chip in for the bride, but everyone else is expected to pay for themselves.
2007-07-17 04:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
No, unless there is a lingere shower at the same time as the bachelorette party, I wouldn't bring a gift. Sometimes gag gifts are brought to the bachelorette party, like a tacky veil or something to distinguish the bride to be, but usually, you just provide drinks and a meal for the bride. You should bring a gift to the bridal shower, and a gift for the the wedding is optional, but not required, if you've brought one to a shower. Best wishes!
2007-07-17 14:36:20 · answer #2 · answered by LoveWithNoBoundaries 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the bachelorett party is the gift, there isnt gifts at that party. Yes you need to bring a gift to the shower and I personally would give a gift for the wedding as well, but wedding gifts are always optional, so if you feel that you dont want to give a gift you should at least bring a card of best wishes for the couple.
2007-07-17 11:38:56 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A bachelorette gift is not required unless you're planning on going in with a group of girls for gag gifts like sashes, boas, tiaras, etc.
Shower, yes, it's appropriate.
Wedding, yes, it's appropriate although a lot of our wedding party didn't get us a wedding gift because they got us a shower gift. Some people think differently than others but I would get a gift for the shower and wedding.
2007-07-17 11:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't need to a bring a gift to the bachelorette party, but you should for the shower and the wedding. but don't go crazy, get what you can afford - the bride/groom should understand that you are already spending a lot on the dress, shoes, etc. you could also go in on a bigger gift with the other bridesmaids for the shower or wedding.
2007-07-17 11:38:16 · answer #5 · answered by not margaret 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that a gift for all three are to be given. I'm in the same position as you, and I plan to get a gift fot both the shower and the wedding (obviously the wedding gift will be the bigger one) from the bride's registry, and a more personal gift for her bachelorette party.
If the bride cares enough about you to ask you to be in her wedding party, I would think she was important enough to you to buy her gifts in this special time in her life.
Good luck, and have fun!
2007-07-20 12:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by toastie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bachelorette: If you want to
Shower: Yes. A shower "showers" the bride and groom with gifts.
Wedding: If you want to. (If you already put a LOT of money into the wedding, a nice card would be appropriate, or a small gift, but nothing outrageously priced will be expected of you since you are IN the wedding)
The 'if you want to''s are ones you are not required to bring a gift to, unless you want to/can afford it.
2007-07-17 13:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a bachelorette party usually doesn't require gifts.... just splitting costs among friends so the bride doesn't have to pay anything.
i would still give a gift at the shower and the wedding. if its leaving you strapped, i would skip the wedding gift and just give a card. otherwise, if you were planning on spending $100 on the shower gift, spend $50 and give $50 in the card.
2007-07-17 12:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by twosey ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wedding gift is of course necessary.
Usually the maid of honor hosts the bachlorette party and she will have to pay for it. You do gift for the bridal shower and do a wedding gift.
2007-07-17 11:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was just in a wedding and we didn't bring gifts for the bachelorette party, since we also had a shower and brought gifts to the wedding. No one was expecting us to give the bride gifts at the b-party.
OF COURSE you get her a wedding gift.
2007-07-17 11:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋