2007-07-17 04:20:43 · 15 answers · asked by jo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had a neighbor once who had 5 fiances in several states at the same time. He even met them in person and took their money and told them he was going to buy them a house as soon as he got a job and then they would get married. He kept the relationships up via longs distance telephone calls always giving them encouraging news. He conned at least 25 people that I heard of and probably a lot more that I didn't hear of. And he used the Internet to hunt his prey. A lot of his victims showed up looking for him after he went on the lam. The guy wasn't any Prince Charming. I don't know how he could fool so many people. Maybe because there are a lot of people out there who want to believe and he just exploited it.
2007-07-17 04:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Zack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I told my sister...
You ask the guy a few questions... maybe somewhere under 32 questions, about himself. You know questions that speak to his character and his experiences... then about two months into the "relationship" ask him those same 32 questions and see if his answers remain the same.
Why did I tell her this? Well because men tend to have bad short term memories... meaning they cannot keep up with recent stuff... and add that onto a lie and man... yeah right he wont remember. If he is telling the truth, by the time you ask him the questions again he may have forgotten he already answered and will just answer again, and you should get the same answers, if he is lying he still wont remember being asked before hand and you will know for sure that you've got a liar when his story changes.
It worked for her, ended a relationship with a crazy army man and she is much happier now.... He was pressuring her to marry him and have his kids NOW. She just turned 20 and has so many dreams and goals. Think if she'd just listened to him and not tested him... she might be stuck with a lying loser.
Best wishes. I met my fiance online. He passed the test! And still does. Every guy will embellish... but only a jerk will weave a web of lies!
2007-07-17 11:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I could tell you I'm 6'5" and drive a Ferrari but that a lie. I'm only 6'2" and drive a GTO {which I personally think is better anyway} but the point is people don't always tell the truth about themselves at all times especially with some one they'll never meet face to face. Ask for a picture or a meeting at a restaurant over a coke or something. NEVER in a private setting first !!! Figure out if mister smooth is normal first.
2007-07-17 11:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever can. I've been doing some online dating, and the biggest lie I've been told is "I really like you, I'll call you tomorrow". This is after we've spoken. And poof--they disappear.
I don't think you'll ever really know if they're truthful until you get into a relationship with them and see for yourself. Until then, be cautious and safe, and also be realistic about things.
2007-07-17 11:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. I lie about who I am and where I am, but not for bad reasons, for security. I tell people I live on an opposite side of the country, I give a false name, I even change my age. It is all to be safe. If you are Alice in Maine, say you are Alyssa in Cali. It is all to be safe.
2007-07-17 11:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not! It is a risk you take every time you meet & talk to someone on here. There are a lot of pervs and stalkers out there and then there are some really cool and down to earth people.
Take your time and watch for red flags...saying one thing and then later saying something else, etc...
Also...never give them your last name, telephone number, city, or address!!! Never meet them alone if you arrange a meeting...make it in a public place and meet there or show up with friends.
Just be careful and take your time.
be cool...
2007-07-17 11:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one is who they "really" are online.
You adapt a certin personality when you log on.
You wear an icon for a mask, and type things that you wouldn't normally say.
No one is honest online. Not even to themselves.
2007-07-17 11:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Katney 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i tell the truth..go to MSN and add jacsons86@hotmail.com
2007-07-17 11:29:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant. you never know who your chatting with and how honest or how much lying he's doing.
2007-07-17 11:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can't and anyone that tells you to trust your instinct is an idiot, I spend all day f-ing with people online and they think I'm telling the truth
2007-07-17 11:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋