I was dating a guy for about 3 years, we broke up about 3 months ago and he is now tryng to get back with me, sweet talking me and beein nice. I miss him and love him as a friend and nothing more. I started seein someone new its nothing serious yet we are just dating but i like him. The ex has the assumption that i am seein someone and is worried and bothersome about it. If i tell him i am seein someone he will freak out probably cry and be hurt. I dont want to hurt him but I feel like keeping it from him isnt helping either. Should i tell him im seein someone now, or wait untill its more serious? I dont want to hurt his feelings and im afraid he will go crazy. But i dont want to lie to him either when he asks if im seein anybody?
2007-07-17 03:51:37 · 8 answers · asked by Emily May 11/10/08 :) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If one of your friends wanted to wear an outfit that was outright hideous on her, would you let her wear it or would you say something (even if it meant hurting her feelings)? The news is going to suck but it needs to be delivered. This guy sounds really immature if he's gonna throw a tantrum over what YOU do. I personally wouldn't even have him as a friend. You answered your own question when you said that you felt that keeping it from him wasn't helping either. Tell him the truth and move on. if he does go crazy, let him. Don't complicate your life by getting involved in his personal problems, k? good luck.
2007-07-17 04:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Skyy L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember this he is your ex for a reason. Reach back into your past and remember that. If he is going to cry because his feelings got hurt that you are dating that is not your problem it is his. If you are concerned that he will do something crazy then you have to notify your job or your school so that he will not be admitted to the premises. Consider notifying the police and possibly seeking a restraining order if you are concerned he may harm you. If he harms himself that again is not your problem but going after you or others who may just simply be in the wrong place at the wrong time is your concern
2007-07-17 03:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you broke up it must of been for a good reason. people move on, if you are remaining friends then its cool.
if he is a decent guy then he will understand when you tell him, he might be a little annoyed for a while but did he expect you to stay single forever after being with him. hell, no way.
3 years is a long time, so im guessing you know each other inside out, i think you already know the answer to the question you've asked. it'll all work out, x x
2007-07-17 04:08:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are dating other guys. You don't have to tell him specifically this guy. You can tell your ex that you still care for him as a friend, but you do not have romantic feelings for him anymore. He may get hurt over this, but you are not purposely trying to do so. Tell him that you are doing this for yourself, not to hurt him. Letting him know that you are moving on may help him to move on as well.
I know it's hard to quit your ex cold turkey after a long relationship. It may be better for both of you to not talk or see each other for a while. That way you can work through your emotions seperately. Then you and your ex can really figure out if possible for you to remain friends.
2007-07-17 04:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've broken up, he should realize that you're not still being exclusive... Tell him exactly that. You two are not a couple anymore, and you have started to date someone else. If it hurts him, that's too bad... He'll have to get over it.
2007-07-17 03:55:29 · answer #5 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with blue devil. Just lay it all out there. He's got to get over it sometime. And things might be crappy between you for a litle bit, but that kinda comes with the territory. You can't have it all.
2007-07-17 03:57:50 · answer #6 · answered by I love cookies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what happen is he left you found out no one wanted him so he came crawling back. if you take him back he will never leave you. but you really dont want that kind of fatal attraction, so yes tell him your seeing someone else
2007-07-17 03:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fess up.
He'll get over it.
He's going to be pissed if he has to find it out on his own and that you've been hiding it, or even lying about it.
2007-07-17 04:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋