ok so my friend has a REALLY negative self-image and i tell her she looks fine but she wont let any boys she likes see her in a bathing suit....this is her basically:
tall....VERY VERY thin (she has a butt though, and curvy hips), small breasts (she's paranoid about them), and she's VERY VERY white, she doesn't tan, but other than that she's pretty with nice hair....and she's not allowed to wear a bikini (reddish/blondish hair with some freckles and green eyes)
so she compares herself with the blonde...tan... woman with big boobs and thinks that guys dont hit on her....
as a guy, WHAT DO YOU THINK??? and if she had a REALLLY great personality, would that make up for everything???
ANSWER PLEASE!!!
2007-07-17 03:50:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course if she had a personality I would. But I like a girl who is not afraid to show her body a little.
2007-07-17 05:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, She sounds very nice but nt comfortable with herself at all, she reallly needs to start there, but really she should look at some models, they really dont tan, which her skin will love her for that when shes older, and guys LOVE redheads, just tell her to watch a couple episodes of that 70s show, they love donna! good luck.
2007-07-17 10:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everything you mentioned is not ugly by all means but its a very specific type. Tall and thin is attractive to me but might not be for many. Small boobs is a turn off for me but some guys prefer it. As far a not tanning goes. I find very very white girls unattractive BUT my roomate thinks its gods gift to earth seeing as he himself is bright white as well.
Overall I would say the look in not my type but she, by no means, should be hiding herself, because then she will never let the guys that find her gorgeous see her.
2007-07-17 11:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a gf who is very simialr
she wont let me see her in a bathing suit and the whole i am scared paranoid thing is really annoying but if she feels taht uncomfortable about it then there is no need to force her to do something. maybe try finding a guy taht is interested in her and she will realize that guys do like her
2007-07-17 10:53:30 · answer #4 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me her attitude about herself is the only un-attractive thing about her. She sounds very attractive physically. I think real men are attracted to confident women. Women with self-esteem issues end up settling for controlling and abusive men. Your friend sounds too nice to let that happen.
2007-07-17 11:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by Joshua H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for me personally, personality is probably more important.
sometimes the personality of someone can make you like them more. your friend should not be worried. we're all different, god made us that way. its just a part of who we are.
im sure a great guy will come along for her sooner or later, so tell her to stop fretting and just enjoy herself
2007-07-17 10:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
self esteem problems the two of you work out some alone time to tan chit chat what ever then add more people to your alone times
2007-07-17 10:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm a girl, but she sounds really pretty.
don't bug her anymore about her self image.
but instead, tell her to look in the mirror and ask her what she sees.
she sounds GORGEOUS, honestly.
tell her to look at all the positive reviews on this page.
2007-07-17 10:53:30 · answer #8 · answered by lala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her to pack up a couple of pounds about 20 to 30 ibs her breast tell her that there is help for her plastic surgeon, if she doesnt have the bread find a dude who will pay for them
2007-07-17 10:56:10 · answer #9 · answered by tom c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds hot to me. Hey, every guy has his own personal preferences on that sort of thing.
2007-07-17 10:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by dpilipis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋