I've been very stressed lately and over the last week or so I've realised that I don't love my bf anymore. We've had problems but they're being sorted but I looked at him the other day and realised I felt nothing for him. I said I love you and still nothing. When he said I love you back to me all i felt was guilt.
Do I talk to him?
What can I say?
2007-07-17 03:47:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Btw we have been going out for 7 months and we moved in together 2 months ago so I cant just leave him or get him to leave me. I dont hate him just dont feel anything. Dont want him to leave either. Help!
2007-07-17 03:48:28 · update #1
told him last night and we're still ok. He realises I've been very confused of late and understands that I'm feeling a bit off.
Was a bit scary for a while cos he went out for a bit to clear his head i think, but everything is back to normal-ish now.
He's the best thing that ever hapened to me and i told him that.
Thanks guys for all your advice I feel so much better for talking to him. Feel we are closer now.
Thanks again!
2007-07-17 21:23:10 · update #2
You should definitely talk to him about it. It will be a tough conversation, but needs to be done now. Us guys can usually tell what's going on with our significant others. The same kind of thing happened between my most recent ex and I. Except she couldn't end it so quickly. I saw all the signs of her leaving me well before she finally did and it drove me mad. It caused more heated arguments than it would have if she just told me straight up when she began to feel that way. Don't leave him with all the signs that you're unhappy while still telling him you love him and everything's ok. It's not fair to him or you, and can result in a worse ending.
2007-07-17 03:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dethklok 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've had problems in the past it is often difficult to move on. Even though you're working things out you might still feel anger and resentment towards your boyfriend because of things that have gone on before. Even though you can forgive, it can still take time to forget and move on. The fact that you're generally feeling stressed could also be a factor at the moment. I live with my boyfriend and sometimes there are times (not very often thankfully) where I feel as though I don't love him anymore. Then there are times when I'm madly in love with him! its part of being in a relationship - you always love that person deep down but there are times when it is hard to find that love. I suggest you don't make any hasty decisions. It sounds as though you've been through a lot recently and you need chance to take a step back. Maybe you should suggest to your boyfriend you both take a break for a couple of days? Rather than rushing into anything you might later regret, you can asses what you want and whether or not you do still want to be with your boyfriend. I think you need time out to de-stress.
2007-07-17 03:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the person who first answer.. if you have to ask you don't love him, however, this may not be the case. If I was you, leave it afew days, telling someone you may not love them anymore is a big thing. If you still feel the same way, talk to him. Maybe say 'things feel different between us' rather than you're not sure you love him anymore, coz that might actually be the case. You just might not feel as close, etc, as usual. Get talking, see how he feels, as he may feel the same. Spend a night talking about it, and if you want to give it another go, a good fresh start is planning a nice night in together, make a meal, wine, watch a film, candles, etc!
2007-07-17 04:18:52 · answer #3 · answered by fairyyy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word love is thrown around a lot these days. My point... don't say it if u don't mean it even if it is a test if you don't love someone that is not your fault it happens. Firstly u do need to talk to him as its unfair to him plus ur only making your self worse especially the long you drag this out. if he loves you he will be a little confused at first but tell him it was for his own benefit as well - in the long run anyway. Also i know you said u still wana live together but hun it wont work u could say ur friends but what if he brings over new girls how u gona feel i think u need to realise its not so clean cut. make a fresh start and good luck!
2007-07-17 04:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by colette b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him....How do you know that if or when you leave him you want start to miss him? How do you know that if you move on that you won't feel guilt from doing that? How do you know that your personal problems and feeling aren't just bringing this feeling on? Talk to him, let him know what the deal is and how you feel. I reckon that if you moved in with him and if you've been with him for 7 months and if you live together then there is some love there. Think it through alone too...
2007-07-17 03:53:26 · answer #5 · answered by Myanna513 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 months is a very short time and if you moved in together 2 months ago then you were only together 5 months!! Moving in together so soon is pretty silly to be honest!! You dont mention if you have bought a house or are you renting?? Please god dont tell me you have bought?
Unfortunately when you fall out of love with someone its almost impossible to fall back in love with them!!
It wont be easy but you have to be honest with him!! Just sit him down and tell him nicely how you feel!!! You never know he may even feel the same and even if he dosent he may take it very well and agree that things arent the same!! If he flies off the handle then you have to deal with it then and there!!
Good luck I jope it goes well for you!!
xx
2007-07-17 03:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by Blush 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I'd convince my mom to take me out to get a strapless bra. Don't go braless!! Not a good idea AT ALL!! And think about getting a thong, but if it's your first time, you might be uncomfortable in it. If you go to Victoria's secret, you can get "seamless" underwear. My older sister had the same problem with the prom dress so she got a seamless thong and you couldn't see it. Don't wear leggings!!
2016-05-20 01:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you want him to leave if you dont love him? is it because you dont want to be on your own? thats no reason for staying in a relationship hun. that wouldnt be fair on either of you. i think you've moved a bit to quick, was this a whirlwind romance and no its calmed down abit your having second thoughts? you need to work out how you actually really feel and what your motives are for staying in a relationship where you dont feel anything.
2007-07-17 03:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are some BIG problems you aren't letting out here, but many people confuse strong infatuation with love.
I think you two may have rushed into things & now you are seeing reality.
I think that if you really don't love him, it's not right to make him believe you do.
I suggest honesty.
2007-07-17 03:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by D W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're just stuck in a bit of a rut maybe, you should spend some time together away from your house, go somewhere you don't usually and find what attracted you to each other in the first place. don't give up on it until you know its over
2007-07-17 03:54:19 · answer #10 · answered by Little Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋