I have been with this guy for over 2 years and I have a child from a one night stand (that happended before me & my b/f started dating) My b/f was there when my child was born & has been like a father figure ever since. But he has an alcohol problem & I just found out that he went to a strip club 2 times last week when he was on a trip with his buddies. I think strip clubs are discusting and I was pissed when I found out he went, but now I am irrate to find out that he had one lap dance on one night while he was drunk and on the other night he was totally sober and still had a lap dance...and this was in Canada and they are pretty skanky there. I just feel like I am not satisfying enough or something. I can't stop imagining some nasty stipper rubbing herself by him. I don't know if i can forgive him and I think i have lost all trust in him....I love him & so does my daughter, but when do you say enough is enough???
2007-07-17 03:46:49 · 4 answers · asked by Jennifer B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should sit down and talk to him. i dont think you should just give up on him espicially because he is like a father to your daughter. maybe you can convince him to stop drinking and may go to a drinking program that could help him overcome this problem. i say before you give up on him help him first so that you wont feel bad if you ever gave up on him you could at least say to your self i helped and he did not want that so thats why i left him.
2007-07-17 03:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by nini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that the strip clubs are that big of a deal. All guys enjoy looking at half naked women, and as long as he is just looking and not doing anything else with them then where is the harm. He sounds like he has been there for you in the past. I think you should discuss your issues with him and tell him that you don't like the idea of him spending time at strip clubs. Don't throw away your relationship over 2 trips to a strip club.
2007-07-17 10:54:07 · answer #2 · answered by Heeheheehee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similiar situation. Ex bf was like father figure to my now 3 yr old. But he wasn't a drunk. He just lied about everything. He told me he wasn't talking to his ex gf, and I found out he was. Found out he planned on moving 8 hrs away, when he knew I didn't want to.
You need to sit and think about why you should stay with him, and why you should leave(ovbious reasons). Noone can tell you to leave him, or to stay with him. You need to do what is best for you and your child.
I personally don't think I would stay. He lied about going, and he let some other girl rub all over him. I would be packing, or send him packing!
2007-07-17 10:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about respect for yourself? Do you want this man to be the example for your daughter? She will pick a husband by what you pick mom. This is only your choice.
2007-07-17 10:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋