First off, im not 100% sure if this girl likes me.. We talk to eachother... and she tells me some funny stories too. Well one night we walk with eachother around the center. Our conversation are okay, but she tells me on the date saying "Its pretty boring tonight"... Going on, we walk around and I want to play with her softly behind a store, but she doesnt seem to want to be touched...?? We know eachother for 3 months.. and i think she can trust me no?? In the begging of the date is was okay, but at the end it was a little wierd. She said bye and went on her phone with no hug or kiss??? I dont get her, because she still calls me and talks to me online??? is she just using me? Is this worth my time or should i find someone else?? (thx for responses)
2007-07-17 03:24:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just slow it down a little. She may not feel entirely comfortable yet.
2007-07-17 03:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it's her right to not want to be touched. Whenever any girl, woman, says "No" it's a no. Back off. She may be playing hard to get. Not saying she is. You give her attention, stop. If she is interested, she'll respond. If not, then she's just not the one.
The next time you are on-line or on the phone, give her the ut-most respect. Women love this. Find out what her favorite color is or flower or animal. Simply ask her. Conversations start over the simplest things. Be a good friend first and foremost. Don't look at this as, "Will I get some tonight." If any woman is "easy" with you, she's "easy" with other men also. NOT the kind a girl any man wants. Remember, if she's been with other men, you will get anything she has.
We can't make a person like us, it's there or it's not. If not, go on with other things in your life. Not easy at times but we all have to let things go in our lives.
2007-07-17 10:48:57 · answer #2 · answered by Suzy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a common mistake;Just get this straight; ASK Her, we can communicate by talking. Dont waste time, just go and ask.what is going on, are you serious with eachother...
Girls like to be misterious; But they want men be clear.
You re not sure if she likes you; but i can tell; you definetely DONT like her! just read what you wrote here. "Is this worth my time or should i find someone else?? " so what if we say "yes, go and get someoneelse" what 'd you do?
In my understanding she is A girl, not THE girl for you
. Simply she doesnt trust you! Or if you wanna hear the worse case scenario; She is with some other guy and about to decide between you and other(s)...
2007-07-17 10:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by ferhat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is not interested anymore. Doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, if this happens in the early stages of dating, it's time to move on. I think you should find someone else, she's lost interest in you and doesn't seem to care. I have a guy I'm dating doing the same thing to me - we've been dating about 2 1/2 months, I'm ready to dump him.
2007-07-17 10:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by Martini Babee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just ask her point blank if she just wants to be friends? If she says she wants to go slow, then respect that, but if she doesn't even want to hold hands or cuddle then i'd say she's got some serious issues and needs a shrink. 3 months is enough time for some sort of physical contact.
you could even tell her that she confuses you. it's ok for a guy to ask emotion questions. its save a whole lot of time and bad feeling.
Girls like having guy friends. Don't feel used if that's it. Just tell her you have enough friends and you want to fill the space of a girlfriend that you have in your life. No offence to her.
2007-07-17 10:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by aneres 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play with her softly behind a store?? WTF were you thinking. She was most likely nervous and wanted to get out of a situation that may or may not have made her comfortable. She may like you very much but to expect a girl that you arent officially dating and is obviously very young (perhaps a virgin) to let you do things to her in public in a tactless way, was wrong on your part.
2007-07-17 10:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by melissaw77 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really cute. It often happens slow when either of you are a relationship first-timer.
Ask her if you may kiss her on the cheek or hug her goodnight.
She can only say yes or no.
Give her time and space. She might be feeling awkward about things too.
2007-07-17 10:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by essence_05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is not how you treat someone on a date!!it is just not worth your time...trust me...she probably hangs out with you when she is bored and looking for some harmless game...you would be the one to get hurt from that kind of relation...so just get rid of her...i bet she would act pretty much better after you act cool
2007-07-17 10:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by carriethecaregiver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is, but she could alos want to take things slow. The phone thign sounds suspicious though. Not many girls woudl do that i know i woudnt. All you can do is trust your gut. Let it lead you in the right direction.
2007-07-17 10:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by music fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...that's a tough one. She probably wants to be friends right now, but keep talking with her and being a good friend and she'll realize that you're a great guy for her to date.
2007-07-17 10:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by vballgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋