experienced people?

Question

ok..well im 25 and im about to have sex tomorrow. i've never done it before so, someone experienced... what ur supposed to do? details please!

Answer 1

Hmmmm??? Is this sex going to be with Kevin?
In another post you said you were 14.
If that is the case and considering other questions you have raised you already know the correct answer. However due to the glorification of sex and the degradation of relationships involving females I would say go ahead and show up except tell him to bring a bunch of his friends so you can really do it right... Messing up that is...

Your previous post

"I really like this guy...?

ok, so i like this guy named kevin. were 14. i used tot alk to him in likr 4th grade and now im i 9th and we never talk. hes really cute and sooooo nice. he sais to my friend that hes not up to a relationship : [ what should i do? "

Really and truly though what you have is a gift and you do not realize what you are trying to give away to the first kevin that came along.
Try this experiement. Hang onto your virginity for another three years. By then you will be 17. Boys will become aware of your virgin status. See just how many try their best to deflower you. Yes there will be quite a few that try. Then of course you will be called a prude. You will be called a lesbian. you will be called many things. But you will not be called a sl*t or a whor3. You can not be called trashy either.
You will also notice there are going to be some girls invited out to more partys faster and more often than you. But when you show up for a party you will not be expected to go in the other room to service several of the guys that came. Some will hate you some will admire you. But only you can have self respect. It is so easy to do something that everyone else is doing. How hard is it to do the thing that everyone else isn't?
If you make it to 17 still a virgin I would dare say you would have run the gauntlet on virginity and will have decided maybe it is a precious commodity. You will see a lot of guys trying to get it more so than the ones they have already gotten...
In other words save it... Don't do it...
Do you have what it takes to do the right thing? Or is the pressure too much? I have faith in you...
It's all on you lady...

Answer 2

You picked out tomorrow? After 25 years, tomorrow is the day?

I waited until I was in my early 20s to have sex. I waited until I really felt that it was the right person, and I trusted them enough. I didn't want to have the horror- story first experienced that were so common among my friends. Before, with another guy I had dated, I had tried to plan a date . When it actually happened, it was spontaneous. I had wanted to, and had some "false alarms" but the night that it happened, I had taken a few minutes and thought "this is it, I love this person, the situation is right, I'm calm, I'm ready." I think picking out a day just puts more pressure on you to think about the mechanics and expectations. I would really try to relax and let things happen, rather than going with a set plan. If this person really loves you, they will not pressure you and they will do all they can to make you feel special, loved, comfortable, and relaxed. They rest will figure itself out. Good luck and be safe.

Answer 3

don't worry.....you'll just know, and things will fall into place. It may be awkward and clumsy the first couple of times....but you will learn...and it will still be great.

As for it being your first...sorry hun, can't help, never been with a virgin before. However, I lost mine to someone who had had 2 previous partners, and she was very patient, encouraging and understanding.

Experience can be helpful, but not necessary...also if it is his first time, don't expect too much. He will probably not last much more than a minute or two....WHICH IS NORMAL DESPITE WHAT PEOPLE SAY, at least in the begining.

That's all I can offer, hope it helps some

Answer 4

Go with the flow...people have been figuring it out for eons without the internet or books or pictures to help them out...surely you've seen or gotten some indication of what it's about over the years, even if only from TV shows or a glimpse of a naughty photo or something.

Just relax and enjoy and if something doesn't feel good, then let your partner know so it can be changed or eliminated...remember, it's all about having fun for everyone involved so don't hesitate to make it clear what's fun for you. ☺

Answer 5

well if the guy ur about to do it with is experienced, just let him do most of the work until u start to feel comfortable, and then u can gradually open up. when n if u feel ready to let ur self go, just go wild n do whatever u imagine it be like

Answer 6

Relax and make sure there is lots of foreplay. Take it very slow, it might be a little painful. But after a while, it will be fantastic.

Answer 7

Just relaxe girl, and don't over think it, the first time is never good trust me. Just don't build your hopes up, but do one thing, cuddle your man after, you will feel better.

Answer 8

Approach it with an open mind and relax, it has been going on since the beginning of time.

Answer 9

first time for you? He better do it up right! if not, or if he seems to be looking to make a porn movie (hard, rough).......... put him out! There's plenty of time for all that crazy stuff later. Have fun, relax, good luck!

Answer 10

Wow, if you ask to ask maybe you are not ready. But, on the flip side. Go with what feels natural to you. You don't need someone else's idea of how to do IT......