attention men!! something about alot of women that I want to all to know......?

Question

I am 38 years old.I was married to a wonderful man for 14 years who had passed away.I had dated before him and I have dated after him.But I wonder if there are very FEW men like him.
What do women look for in a man? Lots of qualities..Sure, its important that they are kind hearted, romantic,understanding ect.. but Im not sure if many of you understand how important HARDWORKING is...
My husband worked 12 hour days and on the weekends (and many nights after work) was taking care of our home and family.Working in the yard, fixing something broke,running the kids places, ect..having a maintained home for his family was important to him.Growing up, my father was the same way.I had a drippy facet for 5 days and finally had to ASK this guy I was living with to fix it.I have to ASK him to take the garbage out when its full.He has so many other good qualities but lacking in this one.
I admire a hardworking man!! I miss my husband!!!

Hey, know it alls!! I worked 40 hours a week AND took care of a huge 5 bedroom house, 4 children, 2 dogs, laundry for 6 and meals!! My wonderful workoholic husband was good at helping out!! What in in the he** makes you all think I did nothing? Did I say that? Im simply stating now that I am realizing that there are too many lazy men out there!! Ive spent SO long greiving the man that Im in love with and now trying to move on. I appriciated my husband than and I do now!! thats why we got along so well. DONT ACT LIKE YOU KNOW MY LIFE FROM 1 SHORT PARAGRAPH!!!

I DIDNT SAY ALL MEN...YOU GUYS ARE MORONS!!!

Answer 1

Thank u, it's good that u r making men uderstand things about women, & wut women like. I was starting to beleive that they were going to have to start making things up as they go along.

P.S. I'm sorry for ur loss & i think ur husband had a wonderful wife.

Answer 2

Maybe your husband should have let you do some of those things for yourself. I mean, he worked 12 hour shifts so that he could support his children and you and then he did housework too? Why wasn't this a shared responsibility? My bf and I share the housework (dishes, taking out the trash, doing laundry, vacuuming, etc.) I don't ever expect him to do it because he's a man. I WANT to help him because I know how tired he is. Instead of grieving for your husband all you can say is that you miss how he used to do everything for you? That's very sad that you feel that way, and I feel sorry for your husband looking down on you and seeing this. If that's all that's important to you in a relationship that's fine, but please don't tell men that ALL of us find this important. No we don't want lazy guys who do nothing, just a man who'll help around the house and be ready to support his family. I would miss my husband's arms around me, his kisses, the way he felt when we laid in bed in the morning...NOT him taking out the trash for me. Sorry I found this to be rather sad

Answer 3

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First of all, I am sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.

Second, though, I must say that I get tired of these tirades that some women put up on Yahoo and other places about the things they hate about "men" or "all men," just because they've had a bad experience with one or two. Your current man is lazy? Well, then, get rid of him and find one who isn't. Believe me, there are plenty of nice, sincere, hardworking guys out here, and we get tired of being treated like doormats by some women.

I had an absolutely horrendous experience in my 18 years of marriage, but I don't go around railing against all women just because I happened to marry one who was a sloppy housekeeper, a screaming b***h, and who topped it all off by cheating on me with any willing male.

Again, I say, if hardworking is important to you, then go out and find that. We're out here. But don't paint all men with the same brush.
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Answer 4

It pisses me off..He worked hard and then died early. That bites. You probably didn't apriciate him back then. Now you are just pissed cause other guys aren't hard working..well guess what? Its not very rewarding to be hardworking these days is it? You only apriciate it cause its gone..you're unhappy now cause its not to your liking..well grow up and take care of that stuff yourself. If you want it done right do it yourself. I don't get apriciated for working a hateful job and my wife doesn't work a job or keep house and clean and cook so what are you complaining about? Its falling on my deaf ears. I genuinely think it would be a mistake to try hard for someone..no matter how much you do its taken for granted! My sisters husband worked two and three jobs and hes a hero in my book. He worked around the house between jobs. I told my nephews they had a great dad and he takes care of them and works hard. I admire him. He did it out of personal obligation...not for a reward. My dumbass sister left him for a woman! She lives barely above water and her woman doesn't do much arround th ehouse or work much either..does smoke alot of expensive drugs though, quite openly. People piss me off.

Answer 5

You must be a smart woman, an office woman, a career woman, a manager, a businesswoman, etc. that you have little time for your family and that's why your late husband did the household chores and fixtures, etc. for you. And that's why you miss your first and late husband in your life. For me women must be homely and able to manage their family whatsoever. She must know how to request for help with her husband in case necessity arises. What a wonderful family it will be when husband and wife have a good working relationship where they can teach each other to produce a good result in their family. Teamwork is very admirable between husband and wife.

Answer 6

You're absolutely right.God stopped making men like your late husband.May his soul rest in peace.

Answer 7

you will always miss him and i am very sorry to hear that but ever body is different and nobody is the same

Answer 8

Sorry to hear of your loss.

Answer 9

Marry a Filipino....