I have been with cheaters in the past and it's just natural for me to ask a lot of ?'s. He has given me no reason to believe he is cheating, but I just like to know what's going on with him.
2007-07-17 02:19:45 · 17 answers · asked by Ari's Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him about your past and concerns but stop asking questions. You will drive him off as this looks like you don't trust him. And trust is a needed thing in a relationship.
2007-07-17 02:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning him - well, yeah, he is going to get frustrated!
Because you have been with cheaters it is "natural" for you to ask a lot of questions?
No...because you have been with cheaters, you are convinced that this guy will also cheat, so you are letting him know by your questioning that you don't trust him and that you are fully aware that he will one day cheat and you are going to catch him when he does.
There is a HUGE difference between wanting to know what's going on with him (which should occur in normal conversations) and your questioning him.
2007-07-17 09:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the nature of the questions.... But it can get annoying for anyone if somebody asks too many things. But in either case, your bf might feel like you don't trust him, and that's very frustrating to deal with.
I pretty much keep my gf informed whenever I can, and when I'm not able to, I tell her everything afterwards so she won't feel like I'm hiding from her.
But also make him aware that you have been cheated on so he'll understand. Make it very clear that you're not accusing him of cheating, though.
2007-07-17 09:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is, not saying that there is anything wrong with asking alot of questions. But some people get overwhelmed,fustrated,nervous or are just not good at being put on the spot. Some people also tend to think you doubt them or dont trust them just because you question them so often they feel like they are under constant interrogation. So maybe if you ease up on him a lil, he feel a lil more comfortable, and will asnwer questions more naturally, or without you ever having to ask him...
2007-07-17 09:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by ibm_4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can get a bit frustrating because you've lost trust in all men, rather than just the man that cheated on you, and your new man is getting penalized for it. Give him some room to breathe, otherwise he'll want out. Keep asking the questions, but not so often. Don't continually ask if he loves you (if you're there yet), because that might show that you don't love him, but you're trying to get him to be the one to end it. I personally prefer it if a girl knows that I am with her because I want to be, and she doesn't question that. You have to keep in mind, we are free to do what we want, and we can choose who we are with. So if he's with you, he really want to be there.
2007-07-17 09:27:42 · answer #5 · answered by Underestimated Overstatement 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can get to the point that you feel like your every move is being questioned, like you are his mother and, yes it gets annoying. If he has never given you any indication that he has ever been unfaithful, leave him alone. Sometimes we create the very thing we are afraid of. By questioning him all the time, you are pushing him away.
It's one thing to be making simple conversation and asking how his day was and what he did that day, but if you need a play by play, and you need to know literally everything he did, then you have to relax.
2007-07-17 09:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.. guys don't like that too much… go figure. I like to ask my boyfriend tons of questions too. But I have cut back on the number that I ask, he seems to appreciate it. He knows what relationship issues I have and respects that and understands me need to ask a few here and there. I say try and cut back. and only ask the important questions when you just can’t help yourself. This could also help you with building up your trust…at least with him.
Good Luck =)
2007-07-17 09:32:16 · answer #7 · answered by anya_8884 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you admit they are too many then I suppose it's natural for him to get angry. Guys like to be trusted as well. Since you don't really think he's cheating, try to lay off on the interrogation. One of the things guys really don't lik is being nagged.
2007-07-17 09:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People feel smothered by people who give them the 3rd degree about where they are and what they are doing 24/7. If you continue to interrogate him, you will lose him. Try to get passed this - see a counselor if you need to.
2007-07-17 09:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with cheaters but he hasn't shown himself to be one. So basically, the questions make him think you don't trust him.
2007-07-17 09:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋