My boyfriend doesn't believe in God?

Question

I have been seeing my boyfriend for over a year and a half. I was brought up Christian. I don't go to church but I believe in God and heaven, etc. My boyfriend isn't religious at all and only believes in evolution. He says that there is no God and that we just disapear.

This is putting a strain on our relationship. What should I do?

Where in my question does it say that I am trying to "convert" him?

I hate when people jump to conclusions. I just posted a clearer question because apparently I worded this one inccorectly.

Answer 1

Let him find another girlfriend.

Answer 2

I am not sure what to tell you because I don't want to say leave him because he is a non believer. Because that isn't fair to you to hear that. But at the same time that is why it is in the bible not to mix marriages. 'Don't be yoked with an unbeliever. 2 Cor 6:14-16
Amos 3:3
Gen 6:1-4
Exod 34:16
Deut 7:3-4
Josh 23:12-13
Ezra 9:1-15
9:1-2
Neh 13:23-27
It is hard to say if he cares about you he might change, because you don't know if he will. And 2-4 kids later and after 10 years of marriage you find out he doesn't change, then what? You have some serious thinking to do on your own!!!

Answer 3

Let this be a clue to you, the ones that want you to break up with your boyfriend are christians. They are acting in a cult like fashion by excluding outsiders. Do you think that a god that created the universe and everything in it would be so exclusive as to only care about one group? Do you think the arrogance of christianity is the only way?

Search your heart, does your boyfriend love you? Does he treat you right in every way? Do you enjoy your time together?
Why are you letting YOUR hangups get in the way? It seems like YOU are the one putting the strain on the relationship because you are just as juvenille as the rest of these so-called christians. They are as un-christ like as can be. See how hateful their comments are, filled with venom towards your boyfriend, and towards you for dating a "heathen". You know what love is, they do not.

Answer 4

Either decide you can work around it or realize you are not compatible. Relationships even between and dead set atheist and a really strong Christian can be done. However...

--How well do you respect his faith?
--How well does he respect yours?

If you sense that one of you is more "against" the other person as opposed to "disagreeing" with the other person, this needs to change or the relationship will not work.

--What other things do you have in common?

We form relationships with others primarily among things we have in common and it grows from there. You might even have a love of discussing religion in common (or not). But you have to have quite a bit in common for a relationship to continue. Focus on those things you do have in common and just decide if the relationship is worth having.

Deciding whether a relationship is worth continuing is always difficult. I will pray for you that you make a wise choice. And if you don't, know God will always be there for you.

Matt

Answer 5

How is it putting a strain on your relationship? Make sure to give each other space when it comes to religious beliefs and not try to press your own on the other. It is also important to respect what the other believes and understand why they believe it.

I've had extensive experience in this area, and I think if you do those things you most certainly can maintain a relationship in which the other person is a different religion or faith. But if it keeps becoming burdensome you may need to reevaluate your relationship all together, as the problem may be deeper than religion. Best wishes!

Answer 6

When I met my husband, he was an atheist and I was a Mormon. We just decided not to discuss religion because we both had such differing beliefs. When we had our son, he left it up to me to decide what kind of religious training to give him. Since he was atheist, religion was just nothing to him. At that time, I was disillusioned with the Mormon church anyway and on my way out. But I still think it was wise the way my husband handled it. The point I'm making is that I truly loved my husband, so we worked it out. If you two are making an issue over religion, maybe you really aren't in love. If you aren't, then why bother trying to make the relationship work if religion is the most important issue with you?

atheist (THINK)

Answer 7

First off, don't simply break up with him because of this if you truly love him. We are called to love like Christ and if you have that kind of love for him than you must choose another option.
To be frank I think that what can really help is for you to get involved in your own faith. Find a church that you fit well with and can be a part of a godly community. Find a way to minister to others and talk about your faith. Part of the strain that is happenning is that you need to find an outlet for your faith.
Faith is dead if we do not act on it in some way. So find a way to act on it, and than you can hope that your boyfriend begins to take an interest in your church life. The simple fact is that there is nothing you can do to make him believe. All you can do is show him love and show him what true belief is about and hope that it interests him and he begins to take a part in that part of your life.
In the end you need to do what you feel God is calling you to do. Is this the man you will marry? Only God knows for sure but you can certainly take this as an opportunity to begin to flurish in your faith and maybe begin to bring a non-believer into Christs arms as we are called to in the Bible.
Good luck with this because it will take a lot of hard work and dilligent prayer. God bless.

Answer 8

My husband started our relationship as a catholic, I was agnostic. Now we're both atheists. Talking and learning about other opinions is healthy and good. Are you afraid to address some of the points he makes about why he is an atheist? I think you can disagree with someone and still have a healthy relationship. What matters is HOW you disagree with them. You can still be respectful, but not agree.

Answer 9

You do not really have a question. You lack the strength to carry out the decision that you already have made.

This is a simple question to answer for the people on the inside of the issue but it is a tough question to act on. Simple answer is do what gives you the best life. If you can't be with someone who disagrees with your world view, move on. If you can allow him to disagree with you, stay, create boundaries and enforce them.

To several other posters:

As soon as you begin the sentence with "The bible says", your point becomes based on something written 2000+ years ago and is not relevant to this situation. This is not a "Bible says" post. It's a relationship and strength type of post.

Answer 10

I believe you should always be with him 4 ever and try to convince him to the right way Jesus' way gently. Because Jesus once said to love each other. And when He meant love you shouldn't break up with him. Keep guiding your boy friend in the right path. That is what women responsibility to men.

Answer 11

Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

If he will not accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior then you need to leave him.