In every relationship I have ever been in I have had to "wait" in one way or another for something...whether it be to actually date someone...or be able to share them with my family...you name i've waited for it...and quite honestly im tired of waiting...and i have been in this relationship for a year now...and things have been really tough between us because of the crap my family has put us through...i am going to be going to tennessee for 6 months...and my bf decided that we need a break so that when i come back home we can have a fresh start...because the way we are going now our relationship is headed for the crapper...we both love each other and are thinking long term here...but does this seem right??? or am i being played!! i mean i trust him and everything...because he has proven himself over and over in this area!! but do you ever just get tired of waiting?
2007-07-17 02:15:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be waiting all the time cause they/ things are not meant to be. The experiences you may have while you are gone may change you. He might not look so great when you come back. I think a break is in your best interest. It gives you both time to think about things. Take care of yourself, and other things will flow better in your life. You are not being played, I think he is being logical. If it is meant to be you can have a new start with him. But, I have found that each new relationship I have had with (different) men, that they usually get better and better. So just know that If your time with the bf is done, that there will be someone better, at the right time.
2007-07-17 17:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by T I 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you both are really thinking "long term", you would be willing to work on the relationship right now, to get it out of the crapper, instead of "taking a break" while you go away for 6 months. What makes you think that after 6 months in another state, things are going to magically be perfect when you return? All of the same old arguments and problems will resurface. There is no such thing as a fresh start. You are where you are in a relationship, and either you change course or you do not. You don't get to start over.
If you and he aren't willing to make the time to fix the problems NOW, there's no hope of changing course.
It's not about "waiting"...it's about taking the time to make things right. It doesn't seem that either of you are willing to do that. Whatever the problems, either fix them now, or split up before you leave.
2007-07-17 09:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Frinn 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sophi B seems to have hit the nail on the head, but you have to make those decisions. It may be a selfish way of looking at it, but only you need to look after yourself - nobody else will do it for you. LOOK AFTER NUMBER 1
2007-07-17 09:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by ditzynomates 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read your message again and you will see the answer.
It's time to let this relationship die and move on.
BF has already decide to do this.
"take a break" in boyspeak means I want move on....
2007-07-17 09:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have and listen fighting your family for something to happen is not good they usually end up being right about it
2007-07-17 09:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by mandyjg20 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start listening to your inner gut , the answers are there you just have to listen to them
2007-07-17 09:19:11 · answer #6 · answered by rxing 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋