What can I do? I need some advice?

Question

I have been in this relationship with this guy for 5yrs (i am 26 and he is 27)
He is working, has an apartment and well to do
Recently i got pregnant

The points are these
1. He doesnt want me to abort the baby (though its 3wks) on religious basis we are catholics and our CHurch forbids that
2. Just recently he told me his parents/people doesnt want him to marry me because we are not from the same state and he wouldnt want to go contrary to that but want me to have the baby in my parents house
3. On my own side i dont mind marrying him and having the baby because the love is there
5. My parents and my people cant allow me to stay in my parents house and have a baby (though i have not told anybody except the guy in question about the pregnancy)
Now am confused
i dont know what to do before the pregnancy develops more than it is now

Answer 1

Gives me a headache - unforuntely its the same old story... girl meets boy... boy gets his end away.... boy gets tired of girl... girl cries off confused and preggers. Boy meets new girl.

Answer 2

First of all it is your body, your fetus, and your decision. Talk to others, parents, clergy, counselor, etc. However, most people have an agenda about this, so it is hard to get honest information and honest opinions. If you decide to keep it, check with a lawyer or social services about child support. This is not an option. If you decide to abort, then Planned Parenthood can help, even if you are under age. Adoption is also an option. Getting married in this situation is an option but should be carefully thought out. I got my girl PG and after much thought, married her. We had four more and raised them all successfully. It was a good marriage for a long while until she went "south". Good luck.

Answer 3

If you were both catholics then there would have been no sex before marriage, would there. Sorry, I know it sounds harsh, and I don't mean to be! He needs to face upto his responsibilities...stand upto his parents and tell them he loves you and wants to marry you, if thats the case.
Are you sure your parents would not allow you to bring up the child within their home environment?
You need to make a stand, if needs be, then move out and raise the child on your own. An unborn child is not guilty of anything, and should not be treated like a tool to control you. If your parents truly love you as a parent should then they will come round.
I can tell you love this child already, and that the child was made in love...good luck honey...would love to know the outcome?

Answer 4

Oh Love,I'm sorry .You are together five years,long enough to know if this is real.You have always lived in another State,why is it a problem now.Something is rotten. Did he know you were pregnant when he gave you the news about not being worthy because of where you live?If so,he is making up the rest.He may not want to marry you. I say my girl,he was man enough and ignored his religion enough to get you pregnant,he must be man enough to face the consequences. Tell everyone what's up. No secrets please.If you don't intend to have an abortion and will require your family's assistence, I suggest that you come clean as soon as possible. Sorry sweetie.

Answer 5

You shouldn't abort your baby because the people around you are wrong.

When I hear what this guy is saying about not getting married, it sounds like a worthless excuse. If he won't marry you because you're from a different state, I would say you should break up with him and find someone who can at least think up better excuses!

But seriously, if this guy is not willing to take responsibility for his woman and his child, you need to get rid of him. To find out if he is really willing to shirk his responsibility, you need to talk with him about what's really going on between the two of you.

Also, you can't know for certain that your parents would disown you for having a baby out of wedlock unless you discuss it with them. They might surprise you.

If your man won't support you, and your parents won't support you, you should have the baby and give it up for adoption.

Answer 6

Does HE want to marry you? Forget his parents. If he does then you must face both parents together and say it is none of their business. They will soon come round when they have a lovely grandchild.

If he doesn't then get rid of him and decide what you should do with the support of your family. If your family are catholics then they should be good christians and support you. If they do not offer support and you want rid of the baby, don't feel obligated to their religion which shows little tolerance and christanity to you.

Answer 7

tell your parents,surly they will not see you on the street with a baby??dont keep it to yourself it will make you ill.if he loves you enough he will tell his parents how he feels for you and he will do whatever so that you are both happy no matter what,the end of the day spaek to your parents and see what they think its your body any way and you can do what ever you want,its not all up to you to sort out its a couple thing so sit and have some serious talking...good luck,hope everything works out for you,hope i have helped you out a bit

Answer 8

I would seriously confide in either a sister or close friend and speak to the pregnancy advisory service. This is no ordinary case and I would'nt like to offer advice and offend your religion,

Sorry I hope it all works out for you

Answer 9

Stop letting other people get involved. Its 2 people's decision - His and Yours!!!

Answer 10

Have the baby and move in with him...nothing to do with anyone else.