I met a great girl on the net.I totally fell in love with her.I still love her very much but there's this huge problem.In the beggining when we started talking,I gave her wrong info about me.Nothing too much,just about my lifestyle,about my studies..probably because I didn't think that it could grow into something so big..or maybe because I wanted to impress her so much.After the first couple of conversations I realized that I must tell her about the real me,but I didn't.I tried a few times in an indirect way,but I didn't have the courage.Maybe because she told me a million times that she trusted me unconditionally and I didn't want to disappoint her.We were talking for over a year but when time came to actually meet her,I scared off and decided to stop contacting with her.Stupid, huh?I know that she will accept me for who I am, but still..it was a lie that grew so big and I'm not sure how she would react to that.What should I do?It's been over a few months since this happened.
2007-07-17 02:12:13 · 16 answers · asked by _French_ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
internet dating isnt the way to go bro, meet sum1 in real life, if you meet osmeone in the internet, they could b someone totally differrent
2007-07-17 02:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by yeaboiiii 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, it all depends on how big this "lie" really is. If you are still a good guy underneath it all and she will accept you for who you are, talk to her. Tell her exactly what you wrote on here - that you were scared she wouldn't like you or you were trying to impress her. If you really love her and she feels the same, she will understand. Then apologize for lying to her and promise it won't happen again. Then give her time to think it through and process it. It will take her a while to trust you again, but she will if she cares about you as much as you do her. And make sure you don't hold back anything big or lie again cause then she will never trust you again. Good luck!
2007-07-17 09:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by inabeana49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...first off this is exactly why internet relationships NEVER work because they are based on lies! How do you know she hasn't lied about herself? On the internet you can be whomever you chose to be, and you chose to be a liar. Now you've ditched her for a few months, and you honestly expect her to not already be disappointed? Please, go out in the real world and meet a real person and stop with the online crap. Obviously it's not working for you, since you can't even be honest about yourself to someone who can't even see you to judge you. Go outside people and breathe in the fresh air! Get off your butts and go out to meet people. It's not that hard really! You open your mouth and talk to someone, if they're interested you'll know right away, and if they're not, well you'll know that right away too. You're wasting your time on the internet dating scene as 99% of the people you'll flirt with or "fall in love with" will also be lying about themselves. You really should get out and find someone you can be honest with...but Good Luck
2007-07-17 09:26:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get back to her, tell her many people never let them selves so know and all the little secrets they have until they see the relationship really getting on well and so now that u guys are so serious about it u wanna let her know whom ur r if only u re not a bad person then she will understand if she really loves u. if she loved u Caz u told her u had money and cars and great wealth , then she is gonna run away. but if she truly loves u then she will take u for who ur.
2007-07-17 09:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by loveit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she believed everything you said then she would be a car salesman's wet dream. Women always tell men they believe them but in real life they only believe about ten per cent of what we say. Why not admit to her that you embelished the truth a little as she so overwhelmed you that you felt being ordinary would be of no interest to her? In other words, the truth.
2007-07-17 09:22:08 · answer #5 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did make the mistake of lying on the net i am sorry but i believe if my fiance now that i did meet online around 2 1/2 yrs ago had lied to me i would of be furious email her and explain why you did and tell her the truth if you really think she will expect you for who you are what do you have to lose? like friends family say if you lose her they still more fish in sea so good luck on you conquest but lying to women is one of the worst turn off there is.
2007-07-17 09:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by ladylynx26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably better off not meeting with her anyway. In all truthfulness you have no idea if the person you are talking to is even a girl, let alone your own age. Stalkers and pedophiles are out there, so be extremely careful of who you interact with. Photos are not proof.
2007-07-17 09:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dan Theman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you care for her and you want to persue something substancial then you have to step up to the plate and come clean. you can't build a relationship based on a lie. I'm sure that if your honest about EVERYTHING and just lay all your cards out on the table and promise no more surprises no more lies she'll be understanding and forgiving
2007-07-17 09:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by cocoprincess83 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you cant trun back the hands of time. But you should just tell her the truth. If she loves you as much as she say she does then, she'll forgive you telling her lies. And if she stops talking to you, then you knew it wasnt meant to be, and move on with your life. She probaly has a couple of lies herself, you never know.
2007-07-17 09:18:21 · answer #9 · answered by mrsnelson28 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her what you just told us in your question, explain to her your feelings for her and why you lied to her in the beginning, well you may find that she lied to you too. or maybe not..., anyway if she really likes you she'll understand and forgive you an you can get on with a great relationship together.
2007-07-17 09:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by sam, b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have nothing to lose by coming clean. Tell her the truth and see what happens. She may like the "real" you even better.
Good luck!
2007-07-17 09:16:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋