what is wisdom here ...?

Question

2 years ago i had holyday with my girlfriend. it was a very stressfull holyday and i decided "this never again", i didnt tell this my friend. Next 2 years went with ups and downs 'as usual'.
this year i wanted to go alone on holyday, i told this my friend, she seems to accept it. i promised her my car so she could do her things as well. 2 1/2 weeks ago my father died. i didnt want to go on holyday alone anymore. i wanted to stay home. My friend's first reaction was that she had made promises and needed the car for that. I said i didnt want to go on holyday and that i needed the car as well but not all the time. Last weekend there was an escalation. I told her i didnt want to go on holyday with her, never because of the extreme stress it gave me. Now she is very upset. I understand that it is a strange strange situation. I told her i am sorry about the nasty remark of me that i should have think better before saying this. Now there is cold silence, we know each other for 10 years

Answer 1

You should apologize to your girlfriend again. Tell her that your father's death is making you crazy.

Also, if your girlfriend is so stressful to you on vacation, why isn't she stressful to you when you're not on vacation? It might just be the vacation you chose.

You could pick something else to do. Like, if you went camping last time, you could stay in a hotel next time.

If it is really your girlfriend and not the vacation spot, you need to go ahead and break up with her. You should find someone who is more compatible with you. You'll both be better off in the long run.