my previous comments have been regarding my ex. he finished with me over two months ago, basically because he wanted to go traveling for the summer without having the responsibility of a girlfriend (make of that what you want). but wev decided to try and stay friends, texting, emailing etc.
so i was out at the weekend with a gang and uploaded pics, many of which included random lads.
now he emailed giving out that im rubbing his nose in it, that he doesnt want to see who ive been kissing. now for the record, didnt kiss any of them but thats not really the issue. not totally sure what the issue is but im just soooo mad at the moment that i needed to use this yet again as my counsilling machine. am i being daft?
2007-07-17 01:32:29 · 24 answers · asked by ophelia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, just for the ppl who think ive sent him pics of me and other lads intentionally, i didnt. uploaded them onto bebo. and there were other ppl in the pics aswell, not just me hanging of a stranger! and he doesnt have my password.
2007-07-17 01:46:52 · update #1
Sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds, ie., he wants to do what he wants to do, but still have you sitting at home waiting for him - hence, the line 'let's still be friends'! Saying that he's finished with you, is just covering himself in case he meets someone else on his travels - he wants to feel that he's a free man. It would be far better to let the 'friendship' have a rest; you get on with living your life and wish him luck on his travels.
2007-07-17 01:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by uknative 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No you're not being daft. You're just backing up my theory that very rarely can exes actually be friends!! Especially not that soon after a break up! He's clearly immature and confused and you're better off without him. This behavior isn't because he still has feelings for you. If he had any real feelings for you in the first place he wouldn't have broken things off just because he was going traveling. The reason he reacted this way is because he feels you're still his property and secretly he was probably hoping you'd be waiting around for him when he got home! He's clearly had no interest from other women so is jealous of you being with other men. If I were you I wouldn’t try to defend your actions and say that you didn’t get off with any of these men – so what if you did? Its none of his business. In my experience, his situation is only going to get more complicated so I suggest you be quite frank with him. Explain that as you are no longer together, there is going to be a time when you get another boyfriend and there are going to be even more times when you meet men on nights out. Explain to him that if he can’t handle this, then there it is going to be very difficult to stay friends – either he accepts the truth or you both have to cut ties.
2007-07-17 01:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you intentionally took pics and sent them to him out of spite. To trigger a response. How manipulating. If he so asked you to STOP sending those pics? Respect his request. AS you would EXPECT him to respect YOUR wishes. Had the shoe been on the other foot? Every single person who responded to this question...would only be sympathetic towards the girl. And we'd also be reading comments like "he's just playing with your emotions". Stop your abuse, and grow up. I bet a million had he done the same to you? That would REALLY spark your fire.
You wouldn't be taking pictures of guys and sending those pics to your ex boyfriend for just no reason. YOU want to know if he has "feelings" for you. Yes, let the poor guy go. He is trying to make an attempt to be your friend....and you are sabotaging whatever friendship could possibly be mustered just for your kicks. Women are unfaithful as well as the next person. Maybe he had to go away for a month or so. Maybe he had a lot to condend with. And to drop you... in his mind... is dealing with one less thing. I've been in that situation before. And the girl whom I was with, pulled the same crap. She sent many pics for no reason - Plus nude pics of herself. I had to take moments from what I was taking care of to DELETE them all. Extremely childish. Grow Up!
2007-07-17 01:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Timmmay! 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Lies rationalization: properly with the help of what you have stated he's an exceptionally spiteful woman, distinctly to you. it ought to o.k. be yet another lie. notwithstanding which would be a incredibly terrible lie, I advise if he prefer some thing from then you definately I doubt he'd say that a ghost is attempting to kill him. except he relatively is that undesirable. religious rationalization: This additionally sounds like he must be getting possessed with the help of an exceptionally detrimental spirit. notwithstanding, this ghost ought to understand what variety of a individual he's. some ghosts do in straightforward terms attempt to scare people who need to be. yet to prefer to kill him is an exceptionally massive count. If this could be a spirit then he needs to stay properly far flung from that domicile. If it gets worse then, I hate to over react, he ought to would desire to contemplate shifting domicile. That place for sure isn't secure and if he's gonna stay there for years yet to return then think of what else is in for him. Graveyards are terrible places to pass away close to and are between the main ghost attracting places ever. Logical rationalization: all of us has undesirable desires. He ought to have considered some thing in his dream that further on him to, while awoken, see some thing it somewhat is probably not there. The hair element would have purely been his hair rubbing against the pillow? That has left me in slightly a puzzle yet my superb guess would be that he became doing it himself to to objective and save his innovations off the ghost he believes is haunting him (it somewhat is a organic reaction) yet because of the fact he became so scared he did not think of approximately it. He became for sure aggravating extraordinarily so it ought to have been that his concern became so super he decrease himself, an excellent variety of individuals try this and it somewhat is a terrible element to do yet some human beings purely can not help it. The drowning is as quickly as greater yet another puzzle notwithstanding it ought to have as quickly as returned purely been his concern getting the better of him. attempt to not worry. As i discussed, he would have purely been mendacity yet do attempt and get some greater suggestion from him. in case you have faith it somewhat is a ghost haunting him then perhaps come around his domicile and go searching with him. Have a very good day and that i wish this is going ok.
2016-09-30 04:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds incredibly immature. Or there's still some resentment from the breakup, although since he finished it, he has no right to be mad with you, even if you did snog everyone in the pictures. A friendship won't work with someone like that.
2007-07-17 01:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by JoesyGirl22 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't even give a thought to what he is trying to do. He wanted to be alone for the summer and not want a girlfriend. And technically that makes you single.
He's just jealous, because he realized what he lost and what he's missing out on!
2007-07-17 01:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's probably got a jealousy worm eating at him.....just cos he wanted to go away without any "attachments" doesn't mean that you can go from A to B in a second....
You should have been more considerate....but at the same time....you should lay it out to him...that if he's having a good time without you...why can't you do the same (taking into account that you're being honest about not getting freaky with your buds)
2007-07-17 01:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by missceekay 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well he has got a point! Your new life, friends or not is not interesting to him is it? He's chosen the life he wants and now so have you. His life is probably not going as well as he had hoped and i expect he was hoping that when he returned from his travels you would be waiting all nice and patiently. Remaining friends never works- go forward and forget him.
2007-07-17 01:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Ellie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, not daft at all. Turn all that anger into feeling so SO glad you are away from this guy and his very obvious issues! Enjoy being single, its the best!
2007-07-17 01:36:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
chick it sounds like he doesn't want you (the responsibility of a girlfriend) but he doesn't want you to have someone else, he's jealous and thinks you were kissing those guys. don't take any notice of his behaviour, he's probably just realised what he threw away.
it's up to you whether you stay friends with him, you just need to accept that he's a guy and they behave differently to us and they get jealous too.
you'll be fine chick, just chill x
2007-07-17 01:46:07 · answer #10 · answered by Missfit 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋