I dumped my gf because I really felt she took me for granted. We were together for sixteen months. She is a single parent of two small kids who I felt I treated as good as my own. I could'nt do enough for her, I did all her D.I.Y. Paid for most everything. Most of our time was spent with her kids in tow, we prob' only had 10 or so dates on our own 'cos she rarely got babysitters. Most of her spare time, when the kids were at school was spent seeing her friends and family, she hardly ever asked to see me in the day when I had time off, I was the after nine o'clock guy when she could fit me in, yet she told me many times I was the love of her life!! I finally had enough and dumped her. It really hurts being taken for a ride like that. My question being.....did I do the right thing?
2007-07-16 23:19:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PS I'll expand a bit. I work full time and I'm a single dad. She onle worked two days a week and had loads of spare time.
2007-07-16 23:41:11 · update #1
you sure did i am single mother of two small kids and i know that she would of been busy but when she had the spare time during the day she could of made time to see when you had time off work,i guess to her you were conveniant and some one to fill in time when she felt lonely most,dont feel bad for what you did people like her need to grow up,trust me even though kids may be around there is always time for just the two of you evenings,and like you said when they are at school and ur time off you couldnt ask for more she did the wrong thing sound slike she didnt care much,move on and be free to find someone who will truley appreciate you and love you
2007-07-16 23:24:50 · answer #1 · answered by treatau 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
did you ever ask her for time in the day? did you offer to pay for babysitter's? think of it this way what if you were the actual father of her kids? how many dates alone with her do you think you'd get? probably less. it's apparent that you really like her or you wouldn't be here asking this question or you wouldn't have did so much for her? you should have went a little further and did one more thing, and that is you should have explianed how you felt and then and only then if no change then you should have gotten out. the things you've mention here are minor. do you think she was cheating on you? was she nice to you? it is so easy to get out of relatioship's we walk away for very simple reasons.
we should try to make it work more
2007-07-16 23:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did! Good for you! She's selfish and a user. You deserve so much better and will find much better.
You said it right...she's one of those nasty leeches that you can never do enough for...she will suck you completely dry and then some.
I'm glad you realized what was going on and got out of that situation. I know your hurt and disappointed but please remember that not all women are like her. There are a lot of good-hearted women that know how to appreciate a good man like you.
I bet she'll be calling.....stay strong and stand your ground. She is self-centered and that will not change. Don't ever give her the opportunity to use you again.
Hurt me once..shame on you.
Hurt me twice...shame on me.
2007-07-16 23:27:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She was a busy woman. She saved the evenings for you because she had children to deal with . If you are going to date women with children, realize this. Kids are expensive, they are time consuming, they are needy, they can be jealous. She had to have some time for herself too. It sounds as if you are needy too. What she did not need is another whiny baby trying to take up every ounce of time she had. When does she get female company, time for hair cuts, timef for manicures, time to relax? There just isn't enough time in the day sometimes.
Best for you to find a girl with no children or other interests.
2007-07-16 23:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you speak to her first?
She may have been taking you for granted without realising it.
In the future don't give too much too soon. And don't do all the giving. As you now realise - a relationship is definately a two-way street.
You sound like a nice guy. You will meet someone who will appreciate your kindness.
Good luck.
2007-07-16 23:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by ShoCh 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she punched you in the face, would you blame yourself? If so, you need to deal with some self-esteem issues.
She treated you badly, you realized this, and left. Mission accomplished. Now find a chick that's good enough for you.
2007-07-16 23:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you started off being too nice what ever she likes to accept you as BF she you expect consistancy
2007-07-16 23:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by mr. r 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yessiree, i think you did...
but maybe ou should give her another chance if you care for her and she wants to change that.
if she doesnt then screw it
2007-07-16 23:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by Concerned 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yea, you just did the thing you should have done earlier.
2007-07-16 23:23:49 · answer #9 · answered by Ginie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
trust your instinct, they are usually right.
2007-07-16 23:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by Discovery 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋