We've been together for 2 and half years and met at our workplace, the place we worked closed down and we all got made redundant in May. Since then we've both had the stress of looking for another job. He's now been in his new job for 5 weeks and he enjoys it buit its hard work, he told me that he doesn't know if he has time for a relationship anymore because he wants time on his own to go to gym and see his friends too, which i've never stopped him doing. It's so hard for me to give him the space cos i miss him loads, but i have done. I sent him a letter talking about good times we have to see if that'll make him change his mind about how he's feeling which he'll get today. I'm so scared of losing him and don't know what to do. Help!
2007-07-16 21:24:19 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he would never cheat cos he's had a past relationship where he was cheated on for 2 years. I just think it's cos of all this strain in his job. He did something similar to this in February and said he wanted some time to himself, then he was the one who said he wanted to see me when i said why don't you have some time to yourself. I feel stupid for sending him the letter but i wanted to remind him of how good we are together because we are such a happy couple and best friends and I've never met anyone like him in my life and know that if we split up i won't find anyone else like him.
2007-07-16 22:16:30 · update #1
I understand it's hard... I've been with mine for 6 years... If you love him, you'll allow him his space.. It will only do you good. Keep in touch with him but don't be obsessive... Everything that's meant to be will be... You just have to be patient.... Absence makes the heart grow fonder.... just remember that!
2007-07-16 21:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by happy2byours 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really sad. 2 and a half years is a long time, long enough to get attached to a person. I hope he would at least provide a clear reason for his current behavior and not leave you guessing and puzzling. The truth is, all you can do right now is to give him space he is asking for. Don't send him letters or try to contact him in any way. It will be hard, but this is the best way for you to handle this thing. If he decides (on his own, without your help) to come back, he will come back. If not, he won't.
2007-07-17 04:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a good reason to end a relationship of 2 1/2 years. You two can make time to see each other.. and working out and friends shouldn't be more important than being with you, and making time for you as well.
2007-07-17 04:29:10 · answer #3 · answered by *TiNK* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.
Be happy that He's honest with you.
My ex cheated, then said his parents and friends kept telling him we were to young to be so serious, so he decided to play the field and try dating other people!
I was soooo hurt, but the pain was worse because I caught him with another girl.
I wished at the time he would have broken up with me first. It would have been easier for me to handle.
Eventually, He realized what a good thing he had with me, and tried his hardest to get back together, but I already moved on. In a way it was like pay back because he then started to feel the pain that I felt!
I look back and I'm glad that we broke up, because I've had a lot of really good, strong, and fun relationships after that, and I wouldn't change that for the world.
Keep your head up!
:~)
2007-07-17 04:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Peas♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry.. that must be so hard.
All of this sounds way too familiar. My ex of 4 years did the same to me and I was so hurt. He wanted to hang out with the guys and do his own thing for awhile but only to find out that he's seeing someone else. I realize now how selfish he is and it hurt but I got over it.
Now that it's been over for awhile, I've met another guy and we are great together. I've never been so happy. Just start keeping urself busy and don't be pathetic around him or beg him to come back. He should know how to think of the good times without u reminding him. Good luck
2007-07-17 04:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by JuDyLicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already did, I hate to say. Sometimes people jump into realtionships too fast, and it ends in pain for either or both of them. I would suggest that you start occupying yourself too before the realization hits. Perhaps you will meet a nice guy to take your mind off this situation.
2007-07-17 04:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just wasted 2 1/2 years of your life. He has already made his decision, don't hurt yourself any more by chasing after him. Don't beat a dead horse, get on with your life.
2007-07-17 04:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mickie K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the same excuse I use. Us guys just can't do relationships. Two years is a long time. Assume it's over, there's no point polishing a turd. Just forget him and move on.
2007-07-17 04:28:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesnt wanna be with you then break it off and find somebody better or just look for people to date to get your mind off him..do fun things.hang out with your friends more often and go places with them..just forget about him if he really wants to break it off
2007-07-17 04:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some alone time, some time to think, and let him be free once in a while. you dont have to be his guardian. and um try getting closer to him. that usaully works.
2007-07-17 04:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋