how long will be his stealing and lying would last?..i did everything..including the nice conversation, disciplining even lead to hurt him so he will learn..i read a lot of suggestions and i think i have tried everything..he is now 6 years opd and im afraid that he will continue this act until he gets older..
i highly appreciate your replies..good day!
2007-07-16 21:17:51 · 14 answers · asked by lee_jm08 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
If he steals something, make him take it back and apologize. If he lies, wash his mouth out with soap (just don't use a lot, so it won't accidently get swallowed). And don't think he'll stop when he gets older. I've seen a few kids like this and they just got worse when their parents didn't discipline properly and consistantly. Or just tell him you'll take him somewhere he loves then don't do it and ask him how it feels to be lied to. Don't feel bad if you spanked your kid. A lot of people go crazy over that kind of thing, but sometimes a kid just needs his butt busted, y'know? I'd hate to see the kids that come from non-spanking parents!
2007-07-16 21:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mama_Chaos 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I liked casady's advice. Is he stealing from the stores? I would talk to the local police and let them 'arrest' him. Or maybe tour the juvenile jail with your son and let him see what will happen. This seems harsh but he seems to be a difficult case- and pray. Do lots of praying. I would also try to find out why he is doing it. Maybe another friend? Maybe you guys can take a mini trip...for a weekend and spend time together so you can see what is bothering him. Is the father around? Coudl he be acting out somehow due to this? Perhaps put him in the big brother program. Sometimes they just need someone on the outside to say it- to be a rolemodel.
2007-07-17 02:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sylvia Lei 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children do stuff that's wrong, so not all stealing and certainly not all lying is all that unusual.
Kids can lie all through their childhood and teenage years because they don't want to get in trouble, don't want to disappoint parents, don't want to "hear about it", etc. Sometimes kids tell fantasy-type whoppers because they're trying to engage someone else in the fun of their fantasy.
There's a chance that he's not able to control his urge to take things because he could have some need that isn't being met, and when people (particularly children) are frustrated or don't have all their needs met they reach a "frustration tolerance point" where they can't resist temptation because they've done without having some need met or without some kind of feeling completely happy for too long.
You may want to talk to a counselor with your son. It could just be the fact that you don't quite know how to get him to stop that keeps in stealing, but it could be that he needs something emotionally that he isn't getting.
2007-07-16 21:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a difficult time with my six year old with basically some of the same issues. It got to the point where taking away video games, tv, computer time, and playtime didn't work. I was worried because if I couldn't control my child at 6, I was screwed. We decided to enroll him in taekwondo and it has been the best thing we could have done for him. It taught him self control, discipline, and respect. He has been doing it for five years now and is getting ready to test for his 2nd degree black belt. It was a great outlet for his frustration and energy. Give it a try.....it worked for us.
2007-07-20 16:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by gunnyswife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend, who's son stold money from his Grandfather's wallet. Once they figured it out, she called the local police and asked if they could come down and take a tour of the station, kind of explaining that she needed her son scared straight. She put him in the car, and did not tell him where they were going. When they pulled into the police station he was scared. She told him, let's go, they went in and a number of officers were glad to talk to her son, they even gave him the talk about how much time he would spend in jail, and that it would effect his entire life. When she took him to his grandfather's house to return the money, he promised he would never take anything again, because he did not want to go to jail. It was a great idea, and it has worked for over a year now.
2007-07-17 02:17:22 · answer #5 · answered by casady96 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lying is part of growing up unfortunately. I think the stealing is a problem. All kid take things they want. You need to make him understand that it hurts you when he does these things. I am a firm believer in spankings in moderation. If they don't work don't keep doing it. Time outs and and taking away things he likes should help. Whenever he takes something make him give it back and then take away a toy from him.
2007-07-16 22:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
at this stage in life children try to get away with things.
usually you have to set limits and follow up on them.
we have tried everything with our own from spanking to taking away his toys and other privilages.
One thing you have to remember is that you are the law.
you are not there to make friends. you are there to make sure he has a good future.
if you let him push you around he will if you put your foot down even if it hurts you. he will learn eventually.
mine is now 9 and he is doing good. he will soon start his next stage, but you just have to take it one step at a time. and then you'll wish for the previous stage.
good luck
2007-07-16 21:26:21 · answer #7 · answered by jaramir99 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't hurt him! Thats not going to work & will only isolate him further. Do try & find out why he steals/lies. Is he scared of something/ someone? Is he envious of his friends? Try to build up his self-worth...Tell what a good boy he is & how proud you are of a little things he does (even if its just him picking up his socks). My Mum always says, Love works best. And please don't think this will continue further...he'll sense it and just self-fulfill your prophesy..... These are the joys of motherhood...! You're not alone! Be positive! All the best!
2007-07-16 21:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by Faith 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to first take a look at his home life and what is happening. Then start with therapy . Contact his pediatrician or school for good recommendations.
2007-07-17 02:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Mia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they stop lying and stealing when you set him straight and let him know that your not taking anymore bullshit. if you let him do this till he gets older then it'll get much worse and he'll do it because he thinks there's no punishment for it and he'll also think his mom is'nt strict and would'nt do **** to him
2007-07-18 23:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by lbg l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋