We have been together for 6 years and he has the worst habit of cancelling our plans!!! So here is whats up, he live two hours away from me and we have been working this out this way for 4 out of the 6 years. So this friday he was suppose to come c me, but instead he's going to washington to play baseball, which he said he wasnt gunna go 2 because hes taking a summmer class for college and hes gunna have to miss some days!! so whenever he does this which is very often( lasy time was a month ago) it hurts me because he forgets about me and then thinks later when i am sad and all upset and state the obvious...So what should i do should i keep forgiving him and just deal with it or what cuz i reaLLy dont know ( i mean i love him so much, but this hurt so much all the time!!)
2007-07-16 20:13:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're weren't married after 3 years, you should have moved on then.
2007-07-16 20:17:20 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi....it seems that he's being selfish and inconsiderate but that doesn't necessarily mean he's a total jerk. Otherwise it could also mean that he's not that into you. Perhaps you could plan a nice date with him and tell him how he makes you feel when he acts that way. Ask him whether he really loves you and that if he does, he needs to be more considerate about you, try to communicate more and in a good way so that he doesn't think you re being too pushy. Otherwise, try to join in his activities and ask him to do the things you like too, once in a while. Give him some time, otherwise if its still the same then there are other options too....Good luck!
2007-07-16 20:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can make that decision. Since you're asking, you don't want to be bothered anymore. Any relationship is difficult, but living so far away is another hindrance. How about moving (one of you) closer to one another? If not, it's time to move on. Is it worth being unhappy and sad all the time?
Good luck with your choice.
2007-07-16 20:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by mac3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he doesn't care about you, when he needs you then he'll remember, otherwise other things can come before you.
If you think you are ok to live with a person who doesn't care about you, than you can stay with him. If not, maybe you should try to have a break and see what happen, whether you can/can't live without him or he can/can't live without you, since you guys haven't planned to get married soon, right?
2007-07-16 20:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by shielie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about it? Let him know that the cause of your sadness is because you feel like he forgets about you and that you look forward to spending time with him all the time. Hopefully he'll come to. (And feel bad a little.) :] Congrats with the 6 years! I'm working up to my second. :D
2007-07-16 20:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by pertinential 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him so much and he loves you enough, you should be able to sit down quietly together and talk things over. Express your concerns and if he listens to you and is willing to compromise, then he is worth it. If he doesn't want to know - then walk away girl, or, give yourself some space from him.
2007-07-16 20:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his ***.
He obviously doesn't think much of you.
He also knows you don't think much of yourself either since you'll put up with it and have been for 6 years.
He knows you lack the self respect to dump his sorry *** so he'll do whatever he wants whenever he wants.
2007-07-16 20:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rich D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might be time to let go of this relationship or move to where he lives other wise it wont work out
2007-07-16 20:17:39 · answer #8 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋