My ex is mad at me?

Question

I got a BJ from a prostitute in vegas without using a condom about a year before having unprotected sex with my ex. We have since broken up but we are good friends and I just told her about the incident in vegas. Now she is really mad at me and won't speak to me because she is afraid I might've given her HIV or something. Is she overreacting or not?

Answer 1

She has every right to be upset with you. You did not tell her, up-front, that she might have a concern. She should have had the right to have told you no, or at least make an informed decision. Otherwise, it's manipulation at best.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I guess she is mad and yes she might be over reacting - but after all she conducted an unprotected sex with you as well and she should have make sure of that herself as well as you did. I think best is that you both go together and get yourself HIV tested it can never harm no one and its the most adult solution I can think of and hey - if she wont accept you you can always show the negative test to other girls . lol.
and get yourself a pack of condoms - its cheap - invest in yourself.

Answer 4

She had a right to be upset, you was her boyfriend at the time you mess around with a prostitute. You waited all this time to tell her now, she felt you should have told her sooner, and that you could have put her health in jeopardy. I say just leave her alone for a while, when she ready she will talk to you, she hurting and scare right now.

Answer 5

I don't think she is overeacting i would be mad. Why did you tell her did you feel guilty? Or,were you worried that mabey you may have contacted something and may have passed it on. I've heard of places where you can go to get tested for hiv without giving a name or addres. Tell her you are very sorry for not telling her sooner about it. and offer to pay for the expense for her to get tested. if she dosen't forgive you then move on. there is nothing more you can do.

Answer 6

say i slept you right now unprotected - we became friends after - 3 weeks later you call me and say i got this rash and went to the doc. to discover i have gential warts - u r the last person i slept with what do you know about this and i said oh yea forgot to mention that


that is exactly like ur situation

let her know you love her and are sorry get tested anduse a ******* condom dip **** - that is serious


a prostitute? what where u thinking

Answer 7

What did you expect....hugs and kisses from her for your absolute STUPIDITY!!!
You should both go to your doctor or a clinic and get tested. This will put her mind at ease, and ease over her feelings when things "hopefully" come out negative for you both. You can't be too safe, you know.

Answer 8

Yes, she should be very mad at you. You can play with your own life all you want, but don't play with others'.

She should also be mad at herself for assuming that you were a safe partner without asking.

Answer 9

no she is not. you both should go get tested for the next few months or so about every 3 months in fact. tell the doctor everything and forget your embaressement and just do it for her and you make her go with you and pay for everything and get it over with. and yes bring flowers for her and ask her forgiveness of course. she may not ever but still you owe to her.

Answer 10

If she is truly worried about it she should test herself (and you might want to consider the same thing). If it turns out that she did indeed get HIV or something from you, she did not overreact.

What is your current girlfriend saying about this?