like.. do you feel like there is no energy, and theres no enthusiasm? if so, does this mean move on or does it pass.. and like is it just a stage in a relationship.?
and what if your having fun with other friends?
2007-07-16 20:01:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perfectly natural and won't be the first and only time this happens. You need to discuss it and both make an effort for a change but at the same time always remember you can't both be in the place mentally and thats the reality of relationships. People expect it to be love and roses all the time and thats just unrealistic. 2 lives don't become 1 because even though you are both together, you still have your own paths you are travelling. Make time and space for each other, never ever give up, always be willing to give in and the good times will always counteract the quiet low times. Comfortable is what you should aim for, comfortable when he feels quiet and comfortable when you feel you want to be quiet. You need to always be who you want to be and who you are, yes you need to bend sometimes but you should never break! You should always feel comfy to have fun with others but never overstep the mark... you know what i mean.
2007-07-16 20:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Shazela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship. If it's someone you've been seeing for a short time then it could be an indication there isn't any long term connection. If it's someone you've been with for a long time then it could just mean you (meaning both of you) need to find a way to make your relationship fresh again.
It's very common for people who have been in a relationship for a long time to start feeling like the relationship is dull. You get into this routine where you see each other everyday and while you might be totally in love with the person there isn't anything to break the monotony of every day life.
Try changing things up. Pick a night of the week and make it date night. Take a dance class together. Join a softball team or bowling team. Take a foreign language class. The list of possibilities is endless. Just do something different to keep things fresh.
Even if you are in a long term relationship, it's always possible to fall out of love with the person. Maybe as you get older your likes and dislike, opinions, and what not change. And maybe your partner doesn't change or changes in a different way. You've stayed together because you care about each other and because it's comfortable, but you're not in love any more. If this happens, there's nothing wrong with calling it quits and moving on. It's just that after investing years in the relationship I would think it's worth working harder to save.
2007-07-16 20:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Justin H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should pass. I've felt that way. It won't always be butterflies in your stomach and feeling like you're in a movie. It will feel like you've been together forever and there is no excitement once in awhile. Just do fun little things to keep it going. To be in a serious and mature relationship takes work...It shouldn't be so hard that it is all you do, but it does take work! To dump them is the easy way! If you truly love this person, they should be worth it!
2007-07-16 20:10:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feelings are just feelings.. not facts. Feelings come and feelings go. I feel "dead" when I'm with my boyfriend sometimes, but that doesn't mean I don't care about him. Just because thier aren't sparks flying all the time doesn't mean you guys aren't their for one another. Relationships shouldn't be built on those kinds of things anyway in my opinion, they should be based on friendship and respect.
2007-07-16 20:11:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been throught that before, for me a lot of wierd stuff was happening with me and totally beyond my control, so it brought me to this zombie-like feeling, but it pass. With support from my g/f, she just helped me find the energy to keep moving. For you I would say: find some way of sparking up some fun........go from there.....good luck!
2007-07-16 20:07:27 · answer #5 · answered by madtsunami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 14:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by rensing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like that, then you need to discuss it with them and change it. You don't dump someone because you are bored. They aren't there to entertain you.
2007-07-16 20:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋