i love him and will do anything for him... and he knows that. but he cant just grow up....wat am i doing wrong? PS....im pregnant
2007-07-16 19:54:36 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look. Your Pregnant. Your treated bad. You can either go the Hard way, and be Treated bad and Let your poor inoccent baby be treated the same way. Or you can go the easy way. and tell him. "By the time i have this baby, Things Better be Straightend Up, or We are Over"
2007-07-16 20:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Question to be answered by yourself
1) What would a father be like, if the child saw the father treats the mother not well sometimes?
2) IF he takes you for granted, would he take your child for granted?
3) Can you define what bad treatment really mean in context? IF in the context of ill respect, e.g. "my way or no way" or other extreme cases, then you might want to reconsider it. Since a relationship need balance of everything from the two of you, not just a one way street.
4) Can you define how he take you for granted? And would it be tolerable many years later, when you know you have to stuck with him! But if you let go now, you might be free?
5) I suggest you talk to your parents and some social worker, and your doctor, who might be able to help you find alternative way to raise a kid.
6) Congrat. Inside your womb is a new life
2007-07-16 20:04:01 · answer #2 · answered by deskof.vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear poor thing... I hope you aren't too young & can be strong and raise your child. Have you heard, thou who will love the most is always pleasing & he'll be in dominant, take u for granted?. You love him more than he does. U have a life and a future. Be strong for your child. Lean on your family, parents, sisters if he does not become responsible by the time you give birth, move on. Concentrate on your child, relax and don't feel bad. Any strong emotion and u will lose your baby. You'll find the right person at the right time. Do right for mom & baby. If he does, congratulations. Talk to him & ask why he treats u bad, w your head up. If there is no respect, move on. Good luck .
2007-07-16 20:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by kmamamoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him use you and don't let the baby keep you with him. He'll probably be a bad father just as he is a bad bf.
My last bf was like that. He loved me more than any other girl but didn't respect me. He also took me for granted and never did things for me or cared about my feelings but made it seem like I was silly and ungrateful. He made me feel bad about myself while he should've felt bad about himself.
I know you love him but you'll only suffer more if you stay with him. I dumped mine and I'm perfectly fine now, you just get fed up with someone using you for years. I have a new crush now and I'm moving on quite nicely. So will you.
2007-07-16 20:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To truly love someone you respect them, support them, trust them, enrich their lives, etc. What you are describing here is a person who is self-centered, insecure, selfish, immature and completely unsure of his feelings. The fact you are enabling such a person to be part of your life for 12 years clearly shows that you too share some of these shortcomings. Whatever is keeping the two of you connected is simply based on limiting yourself to just having "anyone" in your life and is definitely not a true, healthy relationship that is based on mutual love, trust, commitment and respect. Relationships are supposed to bring you happiness, connectedness, support and enrich your true sense of self. I would end this relationship completely and move on in your life so that maybe you can finally find someone you can actually share a true relationship with. No secure, well-adjusted person would allow someone to treat them badly in a relationship, so I would recommend therapy to find out why you do allow it and actually have to ask such a question.
2016-05-19 23:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing everything for him & you are not standing up for yourself, so he takes you for granted. He may love you but he does not appreciate you & is not showing you the respect you are due. He is immature & will have to grow up on his own. You are pregnant. Congrats. But don't count him growing up from this experience, he may or he may not. You need to focus on your baby & yourself. You can't let him run you ragged. You have to learn how to be strong.
2007-07-16 20:01:27 · answer #6 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i'm not here to say he's a jerk or that you're perfect. love is hard sometimes. sometimes things will not go your way and sometimes it makes it so hard to look at his good qualities (even when all he's showing is his bad qualities)... but since you're a mother-to-be (congratulations!!!) you need to put all your effort into your baby. tell him, "i know you love me, and you must love my baby too. in order to have a happy family together, you need to appreciate me & respect my feelings. stop treating me bad if you love me. I love you and we dont want our baby to grow into a bad environment" hopefully that helps.
2007-07-16 20:01:35 · answer #7 · answered by lelenguyen05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should have found a real man who knows what responsibility and commitment are before you decided to get pregnant. By the way, pregnancy is a choice, and you chose to get knocked up by this guy. Your child will be raised by this guy. You are stuck with this guy in your life in some form for the rest of your life. So calling him immature and saying he treats you bad, is your choice, you chose him.
2007-07-16 19:58:37 · answer #8 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he really loves u he will look after u treat u like a queen. seems like he loves himself more. why u let yrself be burdened with all these things. leave him. think about yr future & the baby. we deserve a better life.
2007-07-16 20:01:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He better grow up, you're having his baby. Tell him that you need him to be more supportive and mature for you and the baby. Good Luck to you.
2007-07-16 19:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetbulbs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋