it's driving me nuts. anyone know why he is acting like this all the time? btw I am white and he is black, thanks
2007-07-16 19:40:49 · 7 answers · asked by cuteness 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well. Perhaps he is not a racist. But him being a man
of color, maybe it is good to discuss the manner
concerning his past relationships with Whites. Or
maybe talking about it openly with certain experiences,
that he may have dealt with. But this can be a rather
complex ordeal at times, when people of different
races, are in a relationship. Especially when family
or relatives, tend to rub off on one another. But it is
best to sort out your own opinions, in a fair and
balanced manner. And come to a good conclusion.
2007-07-18 03:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
really need more info. Obviously you're not a racist so if he accuses you repeatedly of being prejudice it's possibly a control issue for him. Manipulators often use this tactic and many others to control the people around them. In your case, if indeed you truly are not prejudice, he will continue to accuse you of it no matter what you say or do to prove it to him. What does he gain from this, you may ask? By doing this he is trying to keep you walking on eggshells, constantly on the defensive and less likely to criticize his shortcomings. basically, to control you. This will not change so don't waste your time trying. That is how manipulator's operate. Regardless of all your efforts to change this behavior, it's just not going to happen. Sorry,but the fact is you have two choices,learn to live with it or leave him now, today, right now! If you pick the second choice, make it a clean break. Don't see him. Don't call him or take his calls or letters. If you do, the manipulator once again regains the control they so desperately need and they will say or do anything to reach that goal. Good luck. I hope you make the decision that will lead to your happiness.
2007-07-17 03:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a little hard to answer since I don't know his reasons for thinking that you are prejudice. They may be legit, they may not be. By simply saying that you are not prejudice doesn't mean it is the truth. That is something that no one wants to admit if it is true. So why does he think this?
He could also be dealing with his own issues about dating someone who is white. He may be insecure about your relationship because he may have had a lot of experience with people who are white as being prejudice. So he might think that ALL white people are a little prejudice, even you.
2007-07-17 02:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by v02avalos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if you were prejudiced, you would not be dating a black man to start with. Tell him that if he continues to treat you that way, he will be looking for someone else to call names.
2007-07-17 02:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who knows why he is acting that way tell him to go get him a black woman if you are prejudice.
2007-07-17 02:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has a complex? If you wanna stay with him, maybe a little couseling is in order for his complexes.
2007-07-17 02:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by sorri 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he shouldent dis his Gf if he carrys on , i'd make it ova
2007-07-17 02:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by porboynz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋