My current boyfriend, who I have been with for two years almost, is a total.. Jerk. We got into a fight TODAY because I went to the movies with My dad and kid sisters and couldn't visit him on his lunch break at work. He's ignored me all night. Sometimes I am ready to dump this guy and say "peace," but I know if I see him with someone else it would hurt. We have so much history it's crazy, but I think I deserve better. What's best for me to do? Will he ever change?
2007-07-16 19:15:25 · 11 answers · asked by Cieeeee <3 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you do deserve better... try to tell him how you feel (not the dumping him part) and see if he tries to change. he wont try to change unless he knows how you feel...
he if cant or doesnt want to just find someone else if you dont want to be with him. dont wait for him to change too long, b/c many guys never will
2007-07-16 19:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by mesmerized 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello girl,
Was this ur 1st major quarrel? or were there plenty before this one?? U said at times ur almost ready to dump him but u couldn't coz "ul be hurt wen u see him with someone else". Let me just ask u a question: Do u still love ur boyfriend?? Or ur simply afraid to break a habit?? I mean r u so used to seeing him & being with him that ur afraid to leave a certain comfort zone??Now here's another question..Do u still enjoy being with him?? Or is it just another hard habit to change?? Ur scared of being "hurt" but aren't u already hurting right now?? My advise is this: 1st tell him exactly what ur telling us right now, except the "dumping" part..Tell her a lot of times his behaviour pissed u off..Ur doing this not to quarrel with him. Instead ur doing this to let him know what u think about him. That uv been bottling this for so long, that ur hurting everytime he behaves like that. Then go from there..If he starts making effort to change, give him time, give him understanding & more love..But if he flies off the handle, get angry then i think it's time u start ending d relationship. A bf/gf relationship is supposed to be a happy, carefree & loving relationship. If it becomes a control game, then get out of it..
2007-07-17 02:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going where Mr.Right Now hangs out.
Think about mr. right and all his qualities. Now think about where and how you'd likely find him.
Think about mr. right now. Think about what he's like and where you are likely to find him.
Chances are you are finding exactly what you are looking for.
If I was in the desert looking for water, you'd think I was crazy right? People are the same way. They do the same thing over and over and and they are shocked they get the same results.
And no, he won't change. Sorry. It;s the truth.
So stop shopping at the Asshole Discount store. Return this one to someone who will appreciate a Guy Right Now.
Proceed to the RIGHT GUY store and start shopping.
2007-07-17 02:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rich D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your case, you need to either make a decision to stick around or not. If you wish to pursue this relationship, you need to talk to him and let him know the things that bother you. Sometimes you can't let history or how long you've been with a person cloud your judgment. Decide whether or not he's good for you. He will not change if you do not talk to him seriously about what's been bothering you, guys are not mind readers. Good luck.
2007-07-17 02:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetbulbs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this continues, there is no value for love and just get a better guy that shows respect and doesn't treat disrespect ally. I have been with my girlfriend since 15 years old and now we are 24 and graduated university Yale. We are planning to get married.
2007-07-17 02:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sista i hear ya on this on,
lol my man s the same way his names mobella
but anyway hes a jerk too..so i know u think it iwll hurt and it deff will im not guna lie but yeah it will at frst but there is sum guy who is worth ur tyme out there that will wanna be with u foever..so just wait for mr. right to come around get rid of this jerk
2007-07-17 02:20:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy that gets mad for you spending time with your family needs to be left immediately. It sounds like he is the controlling type--very insecure and demanding. Tell him that he will never come between you and your family. Tell him that he needs to grow up or you will start looking for a real man.
2007-07-17 02:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you make specific plans to see him at lunch? if so, your at fault, if not DUMP HIS ***
2007-07-17 02:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by thenewmadmax 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the grass isn't always greener.
2007-07-17 02:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could always blow some other guy and then visit him with the *** on your face and say o whoops...and then hell break up with u
2007-07-17 02:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋