I finally told a girl that ive been friends with for a long time how i felt. she told me the feelings mutual, and that she had also felt the same but had never said anything. but anyways it just seems like at some times shes really into me. but then other days she seems like she could just care less. just like little things, like she'll say she'll call, and never does. or she'll cancel plans last minute. but when we ARE together, everything just seems so perfect. but i DONT want to get used! somebody please tell me what to do.
2007-07-16 19:00:03 · 9 answers · asked by Bryan K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks alot for all the answers guys.. keep them coming lol
2007-07-16 19:11:05 · update #1
You are getting used.
When in doubt, look at a person's actions to tell you how they feel about something.
If an outsider saw how she treats you, what would they think? Would they say "wow, she really likes him.." or would they say "wow. she could care less. she uses him when she is bored."
Always remember that actions not words tell you how people really feel.
2007-07-16 19:05:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rich D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang man... Simple. Tell her you feel like you're getting the run around when she cancels plans and bails on calling you. Then see if you can work out a way to make sure it doesn't happen so you can stop worrying about it
I'm tellin' ya man. Honesty works wonders. She may use it as an excuse to bail, but then you know it wasn't gonna work anyway and you can stop worrying about it anyway.
2007-07-17 02:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by flyzinID 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's cancelling last minute or not calling when she says she does, I say she's using you. IOW, she's only going out with you when she has nothing better to do. Either that or she is immature and irresponsible. Does she treat everyone that way?
Sorry, don't mean to burst your bubble, but she's just not good enough for you.
2007-07-17 02:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girls go through emotions and up and downs,she may very well like you but at times shes not sure what to do with her own feelings so just hang in there keep being open and honest with her and make her feel comfortable around you and things are meant to be then they will be
2007-07-17 02:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off a little.
Talk to other girls.
Go out with your friends, and have fun.
Ask her to go out with you on a specific day and time. if she cancels or says no, then thats your sign to not think of her in that way anymore.
2007-07-17 02:06:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First talk to her about it. If u dont get the answers u need then break up with her. Its not worth ur time if ur just gunna be unhappy.
2007-07-17 02:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be too early in the game for her to be sure how she feels. Give it more time. If you want to be exclusive with her, ask her to be your girlfriend.
2007-07-17 02:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend,if she wants more let her come to you.See how she reacts if you bring another woman around.
2007-07-17 02:06:09 · answer #8 · answered by jameel t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start going out with another girl, see if she gets jealous.
This is how we start "drama"
2007-07-17 02:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by Specs919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋