People keep insisting there's nothing wrong with hitting their children, can you tell them what works better?

Answer 1

My children are 6 & 8(twins). I have found that grounding them from their toys works better than anything. I am not against spanking with a bare hand and in cases where time out didn't work. This just happens to work for my children. I do not want to promote violence to children, but when they are doing something that can harm them or potentiallly kill them (running into the street or getting into cleaning products) some physical reenforcement could help. Thankfully, I didn't have to deal with this and now they are old enough to talk to and tell them the consequences of their actions.

Answer 2

When I was little and did something pretty bad, my dad would take me back into his room, bend me over his knee and switch me with his belt. He didn't use all that much force so it wasn't like abuse, just enough to let me know that he wasn't kidding around and let me know I didn't want it again. That's like the only discipline I got except maybe a few quick hand spankings by my mom. I never got grounded and I never got anything taken away. I turned out quite nice. I am a lover, not a fighter. I think the problem is sometimes the person who is in control of the spankings either has an anger problem and don't know when enough is enough or they do it too much so the kid eventually thinks they are bad no matter what they do so it don't stop bad behavior. So I beleive it to be good if used in moderation.

Answer 3

My father taught me by example and grounding and RESPECT and LOVE!!! I had enough respect for him and knew that he had his trust instilled in me that I did not want to do anything and then when I did he would talk to me and explain why it was wrong or a mistake. I was definitely punished but in appropriate ways. As I said I would be grounded or have things taken away for awhile. You can be very stern and not spank or hit a child and they can still learn the same things. Some children may need extra attention or discipline but that does not mean they need to be spanked. All too often I see children being spanked and yelled at because I think it is the fastest thing for a parent to do when they cannot "control" their child.

Answer 4

Well I can only speak to what I feel about this, For Me hitting really never works, Talking to them works better, When I was young I was hit but it wasnt like a bad hitting type thing, like beating me up,, But even that really didnt work,, One time My father hit me which was the first and his last time, hit me so hard I went on the floor,, again that didnt work, it showed me another side of my father... So talking about the problem/s works in the long term,, they learn as they go,, like we all do,, so to show them which is right and whats not right, will work later for them in life... makes sense?

Answer 5

Love works better. I raised six kids, and never hit them. They all grew up into wonderful human beings. I used time outs when they were small, and just talked to them when they were older. Knowing I was disappointed in them was worse than any beating would have been. Hitting kids just teaches them that violence is the answer. There's way too much of that in the world already.

Answer 6

A parent, in dealing with a defiant child, unaware of danger, refusing to listen or obey, for repeated forms of disrespect.....
is seeking 2 things.
1) to gain the child's immediate attention
2) to cause a change in the behavior or attitude

Of my 5 children,
with two of them we only had to "look" at them and their little hearts were crushed, becoming compliant
one child needed some help with changes in attitude/behavior
two of the other children stood their ground, headed straight for danger on a continual basis, purposed to do wrong, refused to be respectful or to follow family rules, insisted on telling lies, or repeatedly hurt others. Simply refused to change their behavior on a verbal command.
These two simply wore out the parent with their defiance and their antics. It took major efforts to gain their attention and to assist them in a change in their behavior. It took a swat on the behind to gain their attention and to change their attitudes.

I make no appologies for the need to use a stronger method to train them in the way they need to go toward their maturing.
Every child is different, and it takes different methods to reach different children in the same family.

Answer 7

i believe that if a child misbehaves a slap on the butt is ok or a slap on the hand if the child sasses you. other methods people use are time outs, taking toys away, no tv, no friends as a form of punishment. anything stronger than that is considered abuse

Answer 8

THROWIN THEIR CHILDREN INTO WALLS