2007-07-16 18:36:35 · 24 answers · asked by tay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not in a committed relationship, then yes...because theres no committment and you therefore should'nt feel like you need snoop around for any reason at all.
However, if you ARE in a committed relationship, then NO. Both people in a committed relationship have a committment to trust and and be faithfull to eachother, and IMO, if no one has anything to hide, then whats the big deal?!!! The best way to approach this one in a committed relationship, is "would you personally be able to let the other person go through your phone & txts' for the last 3 months?!".
If the other person gets all defensive, then theres a reason why...most likely a BAD one!
A few times I've handed my ex's my phone while I went through theirs infront of them....and most of the time they've gotten upset or defensive about it....hence them being exes! ;o)
Seriously though, if a partner wants to go through your stuff, then you should ALWAYS ask before hand, if you can go through theirs....to establish the fact that you're not just kidding around and that you too can play that game.
Usually, when someone wants to go through your stuff, they have a reason to...and if it's a female, then she has GOOD reason to...and ladies, if it's a guy and you've been a bad girl...then he's known about it way before he does this!
Bottom line, you should both trust eachother enough so that if this comes up, you'll know nothing bad will be found out, and you should keep in mind that both sexes usually have good reasoning to do this.
2007-07-16 18:53:05 · answer #1 · answered by blackmetalhd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is WHY?
If you are just being nosey, then you do risk your partner's anger at having their privacy violated.
Are you suspicious that s/he is cheating? If you are suspicious then you would be better off talking to them about your suspicions, although, from experience, cheaters will often lie, even when presented with evidence.
If you want to do so, why not ask them if you can? The answer might give you a clue as to whether there is anything to worry about. My husband could check mine anytime, but then I have nothing to hide. But I would be offended if he did that, and didn't ask first.
2007-07-16 18:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow !! I suppose it is. I am so guilty of going thru my husbands cell phone. I guess some people would call it violating his privacy, and that I don't trust him. I say for the most part curious, and jealous, that maybe he might find someone else. INSECURITY is also why we women go thru our mens things. Some women have every reason to go thru their partners things, if they suspect his is cheating. So I guess it depends on why your doing it.
2007-07-16 18:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by wildfiregirl100@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure that I would rather no one went through my phone and texts. I don't have anything to hide, but it is my privacy. If you can't trust your partner you need to talk or do something, but if you can then there is no need to rummage. In the end the truth always comes out.
2007-07-16 18:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ledreru 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think it would depend on the reason you were going through their phone and text messages. if it was because you are looking for something particular and they know you were looking through it then no it wouldn't be wrong but if you are doing it because you want to snoop and see what they are up too then yeah it would be kinda wrong because first of all that would mean you don't completely trust them and second of all you would be invading their privacy and you gotta think what it would be like if the shoe was on the other foot and someone wanted to invade your privacy
2007-07-16 18:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you think wrong is... It shows a complete lack of trust, but maybe they have shown they aren't trustworthy. My guess is you're trying to protect yourself from being cheated on... my advice would be to voice your concern (not in an accusing way) if you think it is real instead of going behind your partner's back.
2007-07-16 18:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by flyzinID 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
You may be behaving obsessively at the moment.
It is bad for both of you.
Stop now,and try to focus more on yourself,and being the happiest you can be with or without your partners undying love or attention.
When you put he focus on taking care of yourself,you will be less tempted to pry.
2007-07-16 18:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a loving relationship, you should be able to trust your partner enough that you would not feel it necessary to invade their privacy. Trust is a very important ingredient in love. If there is no trust, then you should not even be in a relationship.
2007-07-16 18:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can he go thru yours? I don't go thru my husbands unless I really think he is up to no good. but privacy is a must in a relationship.
2007-07-16 18:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way, if you have a gutt feeling something aint right, and its not just out of boredom, or curiosity (that is invasion)
Do it. I did and to this day dont regret it. I found some real nasty **** that Im glad I found. Saw the proof myself!
Not saying they may be dodgey, but its sometimes nice to reassure.
2007-07-16 18:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by razzy79 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋