If you made a mistake as a child and were hit any harder than a spank for it, did you learn self-discipline?

Answer 1

No. I will develop hatred in my heart.

Answer 2

It really depends on whether you know the reason why you were spanked or hit any harder than a spank, and the attitude of the child... some avoid doing the same mistake, because of fear that they may be spanked again, while some resort to being rebellious and develop hatred and hostilities toward their parents. If the parents talked to their child after spanking them, and tell them the reason for it, I think the child would understand it, and would avoid the same mistake in the future thus learning self discipline in the process

Answer 3

I was never hit any harder than a spank BUT I remember the anger I felt when my mom spanked me. I didn't learn anything other than not to get caught again. I held grudges as a child as well. If anything, I became harder to deal with and threw more temper tantrums out of rage. I misbehaved more when punished. I was not a good child.

Answer 4

No, I only resented my mother more every time she hit me. I was hit for the smallest things. A look she didn't like got a slap across the face. The wrong "tone" of voice warranted another slap in the face. Fighting with my sister usually got the belt. I can't remember doing anything seriously wrong, I was terrified of my mother. You can discipline your kids with fear and I guess it works but they will hate you for it. I disowned my mother for it because she justifies everything she did (not just spanking but other abuse as well) and calls me a liar and that what I say happened didn't happen. Funny, my siblings all remember the same things! She scarred me for life and broke my heart. I grew up thinking my mother hated me, what a thing for a child. Of all people in this world your mother should love you. You must be worthless if your mother doesn't even love you! It hurts so deeply and I'm afraid I will never have a relationship with my mother. I have tried to heal it with her but it is one sided. It was best for me to walk away, I can't take her abuse anymore. I am an adult now with my own family and she still has abusive behavior, not physically but emotionally. I think she has a mental illness but regardless, I can't do it anymore. I need to look after myself and the pain she causes when she is around is too much to bear. I remember telling her when I was a kid, why don't you just try talking to me rather than yelling and hitting? I guess she didn't like that idea. It teaches nothing to a child to hit them, but fear and resentment.

Answer 5

I was only spanked ONCE as a child, and I was one of the most disciplined children you know. I think it depends more on the morals and principles your parents teach you than the pain they inflict on you that really makes a lasting impression on children.

Answer 6

omg
i am only 15....
whenever i was hit harder, then i just got mad and wanted to do it again to make my dad mad.
i always got in trouble for things i actually didnt do from my sister.. so that makes a bit of a difference.

Answer 7

No. I learned to never trust mommy and wait till shes not looking to do anything.

Answer 8

No, I learned anger, resentment, and bitterness. And, it's taken a lot of my adult life to discover that and cope with it.

You got a problem with that? (See, I'm still working on it.)

Answer 9

No i felt rejection, pain, shamefulness,fear,and panic..PROBALY ONE OF THE REASONS I HAVE PTSD' also i belive you make look for the same in future relationships.

Answer 10

nah...only rudeness a child can learn if beaten hardly!...