I met this guy 2 weeks ago and we went out, we had a great time, we talked about our kids andhow they come first and how busy we both were. We have talked everyday either online or text messaging on his lunch break or on the phone since and before our date until he went on vacation last friday. Since then I have talked to him on the phone once and I sent him a text message to see if he was havin fun on his vacation. He said he had been painting and cleaning and that he would either call me or message me but he hasnt for a couple of days now. Is he just busy and not have time to call or is he just being nice by saying he will but letting me know in a round about way that he doesnt want to talk to me? I really like this guy and I don't want to sound or be pushy but if he isnt into me like I am him I would like to know. Am I being to quick to assume he is pushing me away? I need help, I don't want to push him away but I dont want to wait around for someone that isnt interested in me.
2007-07-16 17:42:18 · 11 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
2 weeks is a blink of an eye to a guy. Not only that, you just met. He's not in love yet, and you can't be either. I'd say relax, let it grow in it's own time and if it's meant to be, it will.
In the meantime, remember - he can't miss you unless you give him the opportunity. Love grows while people are apart just like plants grow in the dark. You got to have both apart and together time or you will smother each other.
good luck and congrats.
Kevin
2007-07-16 17:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him some more time. He's been busy, and I assume he's probably got some distractions--maybe kids.
You've only known him for two weeks. Don't expect too much too soon, and remember the same things that might be bugging you about a relationship could be bugging him.
It might not work out and it might work out very well. You are way too early to be expecting too much or being concerned he is rejecting you. Don't pressure him and don't pressure yourself.
Another thing to keep in mind is that he might have other women he is interested in besides you. That isn't a bad thing at all, if you have attracted as much attention from him as you indicate you have. It sounds like you made a very favorable impression on him.
Be ready for either success or failure. You can only control what you do.
Good luck!!
(I've been where you guys are.)
2007-07-16 17:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All people above me have good advice. All I can tell you, being a guy, is that if I am interested in someone I give them attention. However, if I was on vacation I might not if I was having enough fun. To give it a fair chance, don't make any assumptions until AFTER he comes back from vacation and if after a couple days he doesn't contact you then just move on.
Kevin made an excellent analogy with the plants :D
2007-07-16 17:52:19 · answer #3 · answered by ArachnidDemon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, do me a favor and re-read your question. You and he had a great time, he even contacts you on lunch breaks for goodness sake; he must think allot of you. Don't sabotage yourself and over-think negative thoughts, back off and don't overwhelm him; you will push him away, because he'll feel like you are closing in on him rather than coming gently into each others lives. It will be beautiful, relax. Give him room to contact you next, don't you do it first.
2007-07-16 17:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't wait around. Don't waist precious time. I recommend this book to every girl that is having guy problems (I should get a cut on the money these two authors are making) The book is called "He's just not that into you" READ THIS BOOK you will not be sorry. You will learn why guys do what they do and you'll laugh a lot too. Happy reading!!!!
2007-07-16 18:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on vacation, he's enjoying himself and relaxing. Give him some time and hopefully when he gets back into the grove of work he'll start talking to you more again. And if he doesn't, that should be enough of a hint. Just don't give up yet, if he's been talking to you this much he should want to talk to you more.
2007-07-16 17:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by ♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you're seeing somebody else! No massive deal. clarify which you do not sense that's suited to pass out with others once you have commited your emotions to somebody else. If he does not get the message - then he's as dumb as a rock. existence isn't constantly how that's meant to be. that's purely the way it somewhat is. the variety you're looking after it somewhat is what makes the version.
2016-09-30 04:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's not into you, but, it could be just that you've been talking so much (often) and making it obvious you like him.
Chill out, stop thinking about him, get back out there.
2007-07-16 17:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and see if he calls not much else you can do, if he doesn't call remember it just wasn't meant to be.....and at least he isn't stringing you along.
2007-07-16 17:46:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling, and he will come to you.
Seriously.
2007-07-16 17:45:10 · answer #10 · answered by somebody cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋