my family is falling apart in front of me, how can i fix it?

Question

ive always been the one in the family that everyone comes to for help or to just vent at about something else. ive pretty much been the glue holding my family together. now my brother is pulling himself away. my step dad is totally clueless about everything and so he gave up. my mom is stresseed to the max. and my older sister just moved out cuz shes bulimic nd doesn't want to be around the family. shes in therapy trying to get better. shes living with her bf but is still living off my family. and im in therapy because everyone still comes tome and im just an emotional teenage girl and i cant handle all of it. ive been a cutter for a year and so im also in therapy for that because my step dad and i fight constantly and yell and scream at eachother. ive always been one to fix things and i always have the need to fix things so they are better and peaceful and no one hurts anymore and my family is falling apart and i dont know how to fix it. HELP!

Answer 1

First, calm down. Act calm around everyone and try to get them in the "calm" mood. Then, try reasoning. Ask everyone what is bothering them and after you pretty much asked everyone, find an answer that helps everyone.

And...

Don't give up.

Answer 2

I am 15, I have two older sisters 16 and 17, and four younger sisters 13, 7, 6, 3, and two brothers one died at birth he would have been 4, and the other who is 5months, I was happy with my family at 4 kids, my parents are both married, at the 7th child, I really didn't care that he died, because I never saw him, and didn't really want another sibling, we all still live at home, and my dad's technically unemployed, my family isn't what I want it to be, but I can't change it, so I don't fuss over it too often. okay, your dad I'm sure wanted things to work out with your mom, and they just didn't, but if he wanted more kids, then I think that is perfectly fine, it's selfish to want to hold him back from that, your dad only has 4 kids, and I think that's fine, it's too bad the girls a loser, but if you hate it so bad, maybe you should move in with your mom, at your age it really is your choice who you live with, and if it would be worse to live with your mom, then just be grateful you don't. this kid doesnt really have to be a part of your life my mothers family is sort of this way and some of my friends' too, you could at times totally live with your mom and forget the kid and the gf even exist! really your family is not getting back together, and it will always be changing no matter if extra people get involved, you see, you can now see your family as two seperate familys or go with one and forget about the other.

Answer 3

NEWS FLASH!!! Where did you get the idea that it is your responsibility to take care of the whole family ??You take responsibility for you and tune out everyone else and their problems.Concentrate on getting yourself healthy.It may seem like the world's coming to an end;but it's not! Try to confide in your mom,if that doesn't work try an aunt or teacher or minister.In fact,if you belong to a church,that would be a good place to seek some peace in your life.You can't help it that the rest of your family is going off the deep end.That is the result of choices they have made.You must deal with getting YOURSELF happy and healthy and unfortunately your family members aren't going to be much help to you.Good luck!!

Answer 4

I honsetly thought my family would still be together. but i was wrong in our own way we spilt apart and in our hearts we still love eachother... but i know in a way on what you feeling cause im the same everyone comes to me on advice but sometimes you can always be the person to fix things cause i had gave up after while i just couldent handle it but still i felt like i had lost my family cause of what i did but you know what this faze of life shall pass cause all the time you cant be sad so good luck and Pray for god will listen.

Answer 5

I really feel for you, I went through a similar situation when I was a teenager, and let me tell you something, I ended up looking for God for answers because I couldn't do it on my own. Maybe you are thinking that I'm a religious person but I'm only telling you this because I do not want for you to go through this alone anymore. Believe me he has help me so much and I know he can do the same for you. It is never too late for him to help you.

Answer 6

you cannot and should not carry this burden on your shoulders. you have tried to fix your family but it seems like you're the only one who's trying. you're mom and step dad should start acting like parents. they are the adults who should be taking care of all of you. you all have to find the root of this problem. you all should see a family therapist especializing in your case. ask your own therapist for a recommendation. good luck.

Answer 7

you should always try to fix your own mental and emotional problems first but not of your family's...this is the principle....unless you can take care of your well-being you cannot benefit to your family...it's only your imagination and thoughts that you should have help your family members...but you're only a teenage girl...you took much burden on your shoulder which will lead to your mental an emotional problems...

Answer 8

You need to take care of yourself and that's all! Your parents need to step up to the plate and take care of the rest! Good luck!

Answer 9

plan a picnic to get your family together and tell them how you feel inside and just tell if they won't listen make them lisen if that doesn't work tell your dad whats happening

Answer 10

You can't fix it. You cannot fix other people. They have to do it themselves.