so...me and my bf have been going out for almost 7 months...and i know that doesnt seem long..but it is considering were only teenagers...but for some reason i keep getting these feelings that im annoying him....and then today i kept getting this feeling that he would leave me for someone else...
but. i asked him about the annoying thing and this is what he said "no. no. your not anoying me. at all. i didnt mean to say or do anything to make you think that. so my bad if i did." and when i say i love him he says he loves me more...and i know he loves me...he treats me so nice...and he never does anything for me to doubt he loves me...so whats wrong with me...why do i keep thinking about **** like him leaving me?
am i mental?
2007-07-16 17:18:42 · 30 answers · asked by Jesi-lyn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope. You're a perfectly normal, insecure teenager, which seems to go with the territory. And you're overly dependent on this boy's affection to validate who you are.
Chances are, at your ages, he will go out with someone else eventually. Chances are you will too. There is so much changing and growing that happens from 12 to 25...Neither of you will be the same people by next year....maybe not even by next month.
Don't sweat it, just relax and enjoy the relationship while you have it. When either of you is ready to move on, just accept that is a normal part of figuring out who you are and what you want out of life....and just move on.
Once you accept that is likely to occur and very normal and NOT an indication that you are a failure or unloveable, then you can relax enough to enjoy where you're at today.
At the risk of sounding like a cliche, remember that life is a journey, and this relationship is not your destination....it's a turn along the way, with multiple exits and turnpikes to take as you go.
Bottom line - you're NOT mental!
2007-07-16 17:28:41 · answer #1 · answered by CassandraM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. It's normal to be a bit worried at times and obviously if you're feeling like this he must be giving some sort of indication that would lead you to this way of thinking. But from what you say here, it doesn't sound like anything serious. When was the last time he took you out on a real date? Maybe the reason you feel like you're annoying him is because you havn't done anything with each other to "renew" the love (so to speak) in a while.
Try going on a date. Hold hands in public, and have a good time. If he acts distant or doesn't want to go on a date...then maybe sit down and figure out how you both are really feeling about the relationship.
But just remember, if he didn't like/love you and if he thought you were annoying he would have broken up with you a long time ago.
2007-07-17 00:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not mental you are just amazed that you all have lasted this long. You are thinking this is to good to be true. The fact is if you keep asking if you are annoying him, you will. That annoys everyone. You are just afraid that he will all of a sudden just stop loving you and you will still love him. Don't get upset about him leaving you. You will know when he will if that ever happens. He will no longer do things for you, or call you, or be with you as much. Right now he seems to think the world of you. You should do something nice for him. Go bye a card and write in it how much you care about him and what you think about him, then get him his fav. candy bar or what ever it is he likes and put it on the outside of the card and give it to him one day when it is just you and him. That would be very sweet.
2007-07-17 00:28:10 · answer #3 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes your heart knows what your head doesn't realize. I had doubts and even had a dream where my guy was flirting with and falling in love with another girl, one of my friends. I'm not the jealous type. It's just that I had been feeling like things weren't going as well between us and wondering if he liked me less. It turned out that he did in fact not like me as much and he liked another girl. It doesn't mean it's the same for you, but you are probably having those warning feelings for a reason.
2007-07-17 00:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not mental, just insecure, like a lot of people. especially women.
just consider that he's with YOU, not someone else. he could, presumably, leave you and either be single or get someone else. he could do this at any time. but he hasn't. he's stuck with you for quite a while, and says he loves you.
give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him and stop worrying. also realize that insecurity breaks up a lot of relationships, and you don't want that. so just remember that YOU have him and, though he could, he isn't going anywhere.
2007-07-17 00:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by a c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No- you are a teenager. And while this love is very real to you at this stage of your life- try to remember- you will continue to expand mentally and spiritually for a long time. Take this relationship for what it is- teenage bonding. I am not trivialising your feeling- it's very real- but true love is an ACTION- not a "feeling". Good luck- you sound like a sweetheart.
2007-07-17 00:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by joye b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're just insecure. Guess what? Being insecure is a sure fire way to push someone away from you, so stop it!
Just relax, enjoy your relationship for what it is. Don't expect it to be forever, don't expect it to be today, just live in the moment and take everything as it comes.
Otherwise you'll spend each day worrying instead of just enjoying what you have.
2007-07-17 00:22:32 · answer #7 · answered by philby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just u being insecure, thinking that any other girl can come along and take him away from u. but he is w u for a reason HE LIKES YOU!! being insecure only drives guys away, so dont let it get to you!! it doesnt help, so look at ur self and realize that u have many great qualities, which is why he loves u so much!! focus on those and forget the insecurities.
2007-07-17 00:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by janie rey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is because you do not feel worthy of his love because of low self esteem. Or maybe you are sensing something that really is there. Also, how you related to your father can affect how you relate to men for the rest of your life if it is not dealt with. Was your father annoyed by you? I hope you get this problem resolved whatever it is.
2007-07-17 00:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by doctorz53147 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well EVERY teen girl doubts their relationships.. And also doubts themselves as well.
You are perfectly normal and in a good relationship.
Don't let the jealousy get to you or anything really get to you..
From the sounds of it, I think that you boyfriend really does love you and i don't think he annoys you..
2007-07-17 00:23:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋