How can I explain this to him wihout a fight?>?

Question

My boyfriend forgets to call me back alot. He seems to hate to talk to me on the phone. He is not very romantic. In the last year I can only think of one time he was romantic at all. He says he loves me like he means it and I'm starting to trust him. I know this sounds dumb but I feel really unspecial to him. I have for along time but I don't know how to explain it to him without him getting defensive.

Answer 1

Well, most guys are not really into talking on the phone like girls are. We run out at about 1000 words and girls are just getting warmed up at that. As far as being romantic, well most guys fall short in that too. Guys spend a lot of time being romantic at first with a girl and then once they have her they feel like they have won and don't have to do it anymore. You should be able to remind him that you need to know that he loves you through words and actions. If he is not grown up enough to hear that, my advice is move on he is not worth the effort.

Answer 2

Oh boy I had a bf like that once.. KEY WORD HAD a bf. He was not into the phone etc.not romantic whatsoever... even gave me ham for valentines day that's when I said," Do I really want to be with him and be miserable? NO."
so I got a few friends and headed to Europe for the summer, he realized what a jerk he had been. But then I had grown apart and ended the relationship. We still talk and email but it's too late now. So, ask yourself that question do you want to be with someone like him? Good Luck.

Answer 3

OK, if he's not romantic, and you think he's not the one tell him with a friendly conversation, then tell him. If he gets defensive, tell him its not working out. Mostly if he's cheating on you with some other girl, he's definitely not special to you. Dump him and wait for a few weeks, and find some other guy that's special to your heart. Your heart is going to talk to him more than you, its very special. You might find someone who can make you feel really special.

Answer 4

Well, relationships are tricky, I look at it like this, if you feel that he just doesn't care enough, talk to him about it, if he gets upset, try to explain it in a way he'll understand, and if you feel it's needed, pull the plug on the relationship, because if your not happy, something must be wrong. But, if it's meant to be in the end, you'll find each other again, and start over, clean slate.

Answer 5

Well, sometimes u have to give first to make them understand n return what u have given.

I'm the kind of person who really hard to show my love, damn hard. It will looks that i dont care but i do really care.. thus, what my x-bf did was.. he always told me every minutes he can that he loves me, he shows how much he really care for me and stuff like that. There's one time he did cry and told me that he dont feel my love towards him, he said that he feel its only a 1 way relationship. Then, he asked me politely to change my attitude and show him my feeling and cares. So, i thought about it and in the end, i myself becomes like him... he teach me indirectly.

What i can say here is, u dont have to be shy to show ur feeling even though ur partner is not like that. Dont scared to communicate with him... Later he sure will do what u always do if he really2 loves u.

Answer 6

Don't sweat it
some ppl don't like talking on the phone
same thing for the romance some ppl don't know how to be romantic or how often
i guess

Answer 7

Some guys just are non-verbal, so you have to pick up on the non-verbal clues.
However, if he's not romantic, I'd have to ask what it is you are both getting out of the relationship; if anything?

Answer 8

if you fear he will get defensive, he is not the greatest person, but since you could still be in love,

I suggest you start being more romantic yourself and see if he follows suit.

Buy him flowers and chocolate, as if you were the man, see if he feels awkward or he will follow suit like I said.

Answer 9

guys naturally get defensive usually when they feel threatened emotionally, read the book men are from mars, and check your heart-if he is a good guy -give him the benifit of the doubt, and build up his self esteem-if you want a flower -plant a seed=Its important he believes in honor and is not abusive. It is important to turn to Jesus and find non abusive relationships in Jesus amazing grace=Romans 1 repented of sin to be thankful and worship the creator instead of the created. Jesus is the only Person who offers the unconditional acceptance that your heart craves. Your true identity is a beautiful, celebrated, daughter of God (Isaiah 62:3-4).
On the other hand, the affection of a bad boy is always performance-based. Jesus, however, sacrificed His life to love you without expecting anything in return. Your desire to feel cherished and complete can only be met by Christ (Colossians 2:10). If you do not learn to get your need for love met in Him, then your heart can be vulnerable to a bad boy’s charisma.
In addition, human relationships only experience intimacy when both parties sacrifice for each other. By definition, a bad boy is unwilling to offer you sacrificial love. So don’t fool yourself into thinking that you are immune to his lack of integrity. You must be willing to walk away from a guy who is unwilling to sacrifice for your needs.
Also, don’t attempt to fix a bad boy’s character flaws. Only Jesus Christ can change a man, and it generally takes years to see real improvement. Change is possible, but a man must be willing to surrender himself to God and take action. First John 4:19 says, “We love, because He first loved us.” This verse reveals that a man’s ability to love a woman is only found in the life that Jesus offers to live through him. A real man knows that he can do nothing apart from Christ (John 15:5). Therefore, ladies, reserve your heart for a guy who will rely upon Christ to love you.
Bad boys may be more common than men with character, but waiting for a guy with integrity is worth it.

prayin for you, and best wishes, in Jesus care John 3 worked for me

Answer 10

some guys are just not romantic at all. my wife tells me i dont have a romantic bone in my body but she knows that i love her more than life itself. guys arent as romantic as girls are