my girlfriends has cut herself before.. dont know much about cutting. she gets sad easy, what should i do?

Answer 1

A lot of times, especially in females, cutting can be a sign of borderline personality traits or even borderline personality disorder. Borderline personality disorder can be caused by sexual trauma. Ask her what cutting does for her. She'll likely say if feels good, she likes the feeling, or that it makes the pain go away. All you can do is be supportive and encourage her to see a therapist.

Answer 2

Your question brings up more questions than answers.

How long has she been cutting, how often does she cut, where and how deep - what made her decide to cut herself the first time, did she see someone else do it or hear about it and then try it?

When she gets sad, does it "just happen" or do things set her off easily - (not a judgmental question but) are both her parents living, are they still together - has she been/is she being abused physically, sexually, mentally, emotionally, or verbally?

Has she ever seen/is she seeing/is she willing to see a therapist - do her parents know about her sad moods - do they last for two weeks or more at a time?

Does she know why she cuts? Cutters come in all shapes, sizes, colors and even ages. Some cut because the physical pain balances out the emotional pain they're in; for some it's called parasuicidal behavior; some do it for the endorphin rush, some are really trying to hurt/disfigure themselves; some feel they deserve to be punished for something; some (like me) do it just to see that they are really not an empty shell, there actually is something on the inside; some do it to see the blood (some to taste it), that's all I can think of right now but I probably only covered a fraction of the reasons a person might have for cutting herself (I say "herself" because not all, but most cutters are females).

As for what you should do, that depends on how committed you are to her. This could be a passing phase, or it could be a beginning sign of a much bigger, deeper problem. To be sure though, it's not something you can fix for her.

Ideally, if she can get to a professional counselor, that would be the best thing for her at this point. If, for any reason that's not an option, there are several online resources full of information and many that offer guidance and help.

If she wants someone to talk to who's been there, I'll be glad to listen. I'm not a therapist and can't make it "all better", but for some reason it's easier to talk to someone who understands. Maybe because I can guarantee I won't call her nuts or get mad at her.

Anyway, the offer stands...

Answer 3

Go to self harm and depression, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on pages 4, and 2: print/refer her. See if she will do the brisk (for her) walking, and candlegazing with you; if so, leave her some, maybe some supplements and even herbal remedies. Encourage her to visit a doctor, and seek therapy (CBT).

Answer 4

if u relly love her talk 2 her ask her y she cuts
if she wants
because i cut & its a bad road cause after a while u cant stop
so just sit & talk with her
all it takes is one wrong move for u to lose her for ever

Answer 5

First I would tell her in a gentle and loving way what a complete dumbass she is .Then I would tell her to consider cutting deeper.After that I would find myself a girlfriend who is brighter then a can of spam.

Answer 6

I once had a friend like that exept she did it on her leg every night. What I did was comfert her, maybe talk to her see what is on her mide to make her do this. Also hand-outs are good.

Answer 7

this is her own business....dont talk or harass her about it unless she brings it up. but try not too get too subdued in her moods as this will drive the whole relationship into the ground