my boyfriend got into a car crash with his mom the other day. he broke his neck, leg, and arm. 2 top that he went through the windshield. they rushed him 2 the emergency room. they checked it out, and put on casts and gave him morphine. the doctor just took the morphine off today july 16. they took him off of it in the morning. tonight i clled him and broke up with me! he ignored me when i asked y. so does he mean it or not. i dont know when the morphine ran out. he was acting himself but not totally. should i freak out and b depressed or what?
2007-07-16 14:29:58 · 26 answers · asked by amber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should go see him. When a patient is taken off of morphine, they go through a painful process called detox. The body eventually filters all of the drugs out of the body. But, there are wild side effects to the detox process. Lack of proper judgment and wild mood swings can be caused by detox. So, don't freak out and go see him, he may not have meant what he said. You need to see him in person to know for sure. Good luck and u can email me for more info.
2007-07-16 14:39:33 · answer #1 · answered by Roger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time...he has been through alot and has alot to deal with for them taking him off the morphine he could still be in alot of pain. He may also doing this so that way you dont feel sorry for him. Let him rest a few days and then go and check on him and tell him how you feel.
2007-07-16 14:45:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is based in trust, and trust is a very fragile thing ...
Indeed millions have died in wars over nothing more complex than misunderstandings based in lack of trust.
Stand back, relax, take a deep breath and look at this from the distant "50,000 foot" view ...
Even between friends there is almost never absolute truth ... or trust ...
Ditto between lovers or mates or married folks or any other association, no matter what the form.
The simple truth is that we are all possessed of some fears, neuroses, doubts, angers ... and we all slip from joy and love to doubt and fear or anger now and then, no matter how we might discipline ourselves to remain positive and constructive in our thinking and actions to ourselves and others ...
Your boyfriend has just experienced a "triple whammy" trauma to his life
1. his MOM ... a primary FEMALE ... just almost killed him off by her actions ... and so you might just find that trust in ANY female ... is going to be a tad in short supply for a while ...
2. his SELF ESTEEM and LIFE CONFIDENCE (confidence in his ability to control his own destiny ... just took a huge hit ... I mean, laying their not knowing if he is dying or not ... zoned out on morphine certainly does not do a guys sense of being "master of his fate" exactly much good ... and folks who are not feeling in control are almost always feeling either anger or alienation ... or both ... ergo .. dont expect a trauma alienated man to cotton up to deep emotional sharing in the next 30 seconds ...
3. He has just spent a day or several days in pain and with odd drugs flushing his system and normal thought capacities out to zero ... and so dont expect that he really wants to start his days of fresher awareness and pain with the kind of obligations emotional or otherwise that a "relationship" entails.
All in all, it would be odd as hell if someone fresh from a totally unexpected trauma was not trying to avoid the whole world for a little while ....
Add to that that a single look in the mirror will give his "am I lovable looking" evaluation a shock ... he probably looks like a nasty specimen indeed still ... and folks who have ANY vanity or pride are not fond of having everyone gawking at how much their look like some vampire from "night of the living dead" and often even reject visitors totally ....
In other words ... back of emotionally ... if there was committment, or even honest friendship, then stand by him, give him time to come back, and see what happens.
Be a friend first in any case, and dont worry about the "status" of the relationship ... just be a friend ...
If it was meant to be, it will be, if not, good friendship is valuable and should not be easily discarded ... be understanding and patient.
Odds? 70/30 ... in your favor for the relationship to restore with time (few months) ... if you are positive and patient ... a sure thing ... nope ...
Bully forth and act like a friend of good character and look beyond the personal to the human being in need.
Sue
2007-07-16 15:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by sue_lim_wa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! He just had a lot of stuff going on! He has had a major life change. He is feeling down and probably feels over whelmed with attention and people so he wants some space. It could have very well been the morphine talking or the withdraws. I hope it works out! I hope it all works out sweetie!
Rebekah
2007-07-16 14:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to go and see him. Could be the medicine, could be depression/shock from his injuries. Did you have a good relationship before the crash? Was anything wrong? Sounds like he really needs a friend right now. I would go and talk to him. If he feels the same way as on the phone, you deserve to know why at least. Just remember that people are sometimes at their lowest point when really sick or seriously injured.
Good luck to both of you....
2007-07-16 14:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by xfilekel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not really unusual. Don't freak out and try not to be depressed. Right now I think he just needs your quiet support. I suggest just visiting him. If necessary just sit there with him. He probably will not feel like talking, but I know he will appreciate you being there. He may not show it, but it will be important to him. I will not pretend to understand what is going on, but he is now fairly helpless and probably feeling emotionally bad about what happened. Up until now he has been the strong one, now he is not.
Any support you can give will be a blessing. I have said a prayer for you, your boy friend, and his mom.
2007-07-16 15:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by cyclist451 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
similar situation~ boy friend is feeling depressed over his injuries, and has prolly broken up with you b/c he doesn't want you to feel obligated to be with him in his present condition. he has been injured quite seriously, if he went thru the windshield he prolly is suffering with a head injury as well, what ever he says right now is prolly not what he means, stay with him , don't take this personally, if in a few weeks he is still maintaining that he doesn't want you in his life, well then maybe you need to have a talk with him. Don't freak out, don't get depressed, hang in there.
2007-07-16 14:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by CDL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be depressed you will find much better. Only a jerk breaks up with someone over the phone and besides that if he went thru the windshield he probably wasn't wearing his seat belt, and that tells me he is incredibly stupid. There are lots of guys out there who are smarter, move on.
2007-07-16 14:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont b depressed, He is probably just going through a tough time so jusgie him some time to rest, guys r just hard to eal wih sometimes. By the way my name is Amber 2 so thats cool. Hope u get him back and that he gets better!!
2007-07-16 14:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow time to heal and the words? Again, the medication may have played a part but give it time and let his feelings sort out as his body recovers. Then if his hard feelings remain, you have found that his love has grow cold but to blame you is only hurting himself..
2007-07-16 14:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋