I LOST MY BABY BROTHER ALMOST 2 MONTHS AGO....AND IT HURTS SO BAD, ALL THE MEMORIES ARE STILL HERE AND I JUST NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHY DO THE GOOD DIE?!?!?
http://i10.tinypic.com/4ulei68.jpgR.I.P THIS IS MY BABY BROTHER JORGE LUIS PORTILLO.HE PASSED AWAY IN A HORRIBLE ACCIDENT THIS YEAR .BIRTH DAY:JUNE,3,1989-MAY,18,2007
Heres a Picture of what he looks like!
He whant to eldorado, and palo verde h.s.
he was in soccer, footbal and band for 4 uears!
everyone luhvs him!
......i miss him so much....i just wish ....ahhh
2007-07-16 14:21:06 · 10 answers · asked by jasmine_ely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm very sorry to hear you lost your baby bro, and see what everyone has said---they can relate to you, I'm sure you're not alone in grieving for a sibling in the family. It would be good to talk to people who lost siblings and how they grieved, in a healthy way. Then comes to a point, time to move on...Who said that part was easy? It takes time, to grieve, and heal well mentally and emotionally.
Hugs, my friend and may you find strength to go with the flow in your dreams of what U WANT TO DO, focus on a career goal that leads you to many years of employment, with passion...Smile, my friend...Perhaps start a soccer team or group, in your bro's name...It's just a thought, if that's not possible---there are other possibilities down the road...He would be PROUD!
2007-07-17 18:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to grieve... and to be mad. I too lost my youngest brother. A two years ago lost my son-in-law (Iraq) and my girl friend with two weeks.To get over it you will have to go through the grieving process. The first step is to accept the situation. This hard. And the next step is the grief.And the rage. Both are good things as long as you don't say there two long. And finally there is the acceptance. It will take at least a year. And you will always be sad when you think about it. You have to experience these things to to get past the death. If not, you can get permanently stuck. Okay that is an exaggeration, but not much. When someone dies you get over the anger fast because you realize it is not rational. In this case you can use the anger… stoke it up to help you move on. And you can use it to move on to other things. Get involved with other people. Be busy for a while. You can use all of this to help you. No one knows the answers to your question. God say He just is. One theory is the good have passed the test and are ready to move on. But know one knows.
2007-07-16 21:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me say I am very sorry for your loss. I too lost a sibling. My older sister. There are no magic words to take away your pain for if there were I would surely share with you. The only advice I can give you is to cherish the memories that you are blessed to have. I will be praying for you and your family. I pray that God will give you the strength and the courage to continue to live your lives to the best of your ability until you see your brother again in Heaven.
2007-07-16 21:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by cris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this---Death is a horrible thing to happen to any family--but it is life--no one knows who where why or how it will come along. The grieving process is acceptance, grief and memorializing your brother. You should never forget him--remember the good times--he is now watching over you and the rest of the family. He managed to live a full life in such a short amount of time---that is something to remember--always. You shouldn't be upset because you still have a hard time with this--grieving takes time--good luck to you and your family.
2007-07-16 21:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My brother was 21 years old at the time he was murder and it never gets easy he will be on your mind all the time at first,then mostly but there will be times when you will miss him dearly and it may bring tears to your eyes. Just try to remember the good and the bad times because they will come up there will be signs that he is there. I think about my brother all the time and thats all I have is memories God Bless You and I am sorry for your lost
2007-07-16 21:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my brother too, and I never even got the chance of meeting him. But I still pray, and somtimes cry, for him everyday. Just remember, time can do a lot to a person. Just take time and relax, try to understand everything you are feeling. Thats what I do, Also remember he is with you forever, in your heart, and in your blood. Also, when you feel ready, create something special, like an altar, to remember him by.
2007-07-16 22:13:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
..it's o.k...to be mad. I am very sorry for your loss. Keep him in your heart and his memories will be with you forever....The pain may not completely go away but you will learn to remember him....without being so angry that he's gone.....remember he's an angel that is watching over you....it just takes time.
2007-07-21 23:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by Jo-Jo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will always be in your heart and mind and while ever you keep him there he is never dead to you.
2007-07-16 21:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by Alwyn C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
grieving takes time
2007-07-21 05:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
2007-07-21 22:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋